So in Pakistan once you have baat pakki done, whenever you go to the girls house is she supposed to come and sit with you? My one is being a bit shy/unusual in that she is sitting very far away from our gathering. I cannot talk to her because she is sitting away.
Is that a bad sign or normal?
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no very normal.
Family gatherings always make both parties a bit uncomfortable as they know everybody is what these two are doing. So esp the girls they try to sit a little bit away and talk less. Don't worry about it :)
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this is normal in more than 90% of the cases, nothing to get worried about.
Just wait for the future years when she will want you to sit next to her and you will keep avoiding her in the same way as she is doing these days :D
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Lol.
Well it is very normal. Some families would'nt even allow the girl to come in front of you/meet you before engagement. So consider yourself lucky that atleast you getting her "darshan" even if they are dur k ;) :D.
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Use a megaphone, I'm sure she will be able to hear you then. :p
Yeah, this is pretty normal (not using the megaphone, but her sitting far that is).
Btw, you really don't have a clue, do you??
You make me laugh. Keep us posted. :)
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Totally normal. if you take initiative and talk to her (about any casual topics), or move a little bit closer to her side of the room, she may respond. Take it slow, so as not to embarrass her.
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depends on the families. her family might not be okay with her sitting near you or talking to you.
if you want to get to know her, you can tell your parents and they should mention it to her parents to see if they are okay with it. they will then prompt their daughter that it's okay if she wants to get to know you. or you can speak to her father directly. or you can do what my bil did, and pass his phone number on through her sisters so that she could call him.
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Use a megaphone, I'm sure she will be able to hear you then. :p
Yeah, this is pretty normal (not using the megaphone, but her sitting far that is).
Btw, you really don't have a clue, do you??
You make me laugh. Keep us posted. :)
I spent most my years in London. So I don't. I'd appreciate it if you didnt laugh, Im sure there are many others in my position.
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depends on the families. her family might not be okay with her sitting near you or talking to you.
if you want to get to know her, the best way is to tell your parents and they should mention it to her parents to see if they are okay with it. they will then prompt their daughter that it's okay if she wants to get to know you. or you can speak to her father directly. or you can do what my bil did, and pass his phone number on through her sisters so that she could call him.
It's not just her family tho. She might be worried about appearing forward or ill-mannered if she sits with you and stuff. She will be worried about how you and your family will interpret her actions, and so be more reserved.
But I agree with stoppit's idea.
Re: How does it work?
Use a megaphone, I'm sure she will be able to hear you then. :p
Yeah, this is pretty normal (not using the megaphone, but her sitting far that is).
Btw, you really don't have a clue, do you??
You make me laugh. Keep us posted. :)
I know plenty of guys whose sisters would've behave the same way, and even then they would be confused by this behavior in a fiance. A lot of guys don't pay attention to this kind of stuff until it is relevant for them.
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It's not just her family tho. She might be worried about appearing forward or ill-mannered if she sits with you and stuff. She will be worried about how you and your family will interpret her actions, and so be more reserved.
But I agree with stoppit's idea.
yah exactly. but i'm sure this would come from her own family - that it's not the 'done' thing. i find that generally, if the guy and his family make it clear that they are okay with it, the girl's family don't mind then.
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Totally normal. if you take initiative and talk to her (about any casual topics), or move a little bit closer to her side of the room, she may respond. Take it slow, so as not to embarrass her.
he is going to get engaged with her, not trying to invite her for a date :)
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^I know. I don't understand your point.
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yah exactly. but i'm sure this would come from her own family - that it's not the 'done' thing. i find that generally, if the guy and his family make it clear that they are okay with it, the girl's family don't mind then.
Yup.
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I spent most my years in London. So I don't. I'd appreciate it if you didnt laugh, Im sure there are many others in my position.
Ok, sorry if I've hurt your feelings. :(