that you do find a near perfect of what you always hoped to have in your spouse?
ordinary people with ordinary accomplishments, but no front and an ability to be continuing with all the hard work to improve their lives, one step at a time with an optimism which is a positive in and of itself. people who care, who are never under mining who you are. people who know you and your ways and in an endearing manner, embrace your endearing qualities. people who can be great friends, intellectuals and spiritual guides, who can refresh your sense of the whole outlook on life, without being judgmental and loud in a self righteous manner. people who will not betray you. people who recognize that you are an entity on your own, independent yet accessible by way of a linkage for being equal life partners. people who try honestly to comprehend your mind, your spirit and your zeal. people who are able to protect themselves and your relationship with them as a spouse, from anyone’s malice and cunning. people who when disagree with you, can reason and argue in an agreeable manner. people who will b by your side, when you are ill and weak, sad or in failure that you can over come the next time. people who are able to have a realistic view of time and its passage. people who are ethical and morally grounded. people who are doubtful and over bearing in possessing you. people who dont mis treat you. people who, if not very wealthy materially, at least in their hearts they are generous in giving support and being there for you for your aspirations in life. people who do know that you mean well, when you say something to them for their own comfort. people who wil not ever cheat on you. people who you would want to trust and have confidence in as a spouse. people who can absorb a condense form of life without breaking apart and becoming deliberately failing themselves or delving on illogical self-limiting ideas. people who can meet you half way in all aspects of life. people who do not compare you with others, while they themselves have so many weaknesses and insecurities, people who not liars or hold double standards. people who have stable and consistent behavioral patterns. people who respect you and your family just as much as you do for theirs as decent, educated spouses who are fair throughout & most important of all, people who you enjoy the company of & would like to have a child of your own with.
do we think, typically, just how essentially does or it ought to matter, instead of why?
how many people see this when finding a spouse for themselves, and value it in the other?