gals behave when a rishta comes over? What you wear? How do you behave when you go in front of people who came to see you, I mean you say salam, sit down & then what ? That would be so uncomfortable, what I don’t get is where to look like down or where as I think everyone might be staring at me making me feel more uncomfortable 
? Another question when & how you leave that room like do you make some excuse or something ?
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good one 
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Just be yourself. Different people will expect different things from you and you cannot please everyone.
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dude i froze!!... Good luck!!
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i'm still waiting for at least one such experience. :D
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i wear the clothes that i wear in office. for make up i wear a light shade lipstick and eye pencil. i do not wear any jewelry because i don't wear it even in weddings. don't cover my head with dupatta.
i would just enter the room, say salam, shake hands with the women folk and take a seat. no need to look down at all. i just give replies to their questions, remain in the room for 3, 4 mins and then leave the room saying excuse me.some people would ask my mom at the time of leaving to call me so i go again.
its not difficult and not something one should feel embarrassed or afraid.
my mom has always taught us not to give any wrong information to them when they ask you certain things and do not flaunt about anything. just behave the way you are and do not try to give them any false impression because she and us totally believe that what ever and who ever is best for us would come our way, Allah does best. The goodies that we serve them and if they ask who made these, we clearly tell them if is made by the maid or bought from outside. if they ask me can i cook, i tell them i can cook not all dishes, just few and that i only cook whenever i feel like, not regularly.
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eughh hated that part so glad it's all over and I'm married hahaa - good luck cus it's horrible! I always felt like I was being stared at - in fact once this lady came over and was talking to my mum who was in sitting in the OPPOSITE direction to me at the time, and the auntie-ji was staring at me the entire time she was talking to my mum - how awkward is that?!
just do what gudiaali suggested - stay in there for a few mins and make an excuse then leave. Act confident even if auntie-ji is staring at you!
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All guy is waiting for from you is a wink and smile . . . make sure you won't forget that ;)
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How you behave depends on whether you're in Pakistan or somewhere abroad. It also changes according to the setup, say, if a matchmaker is involved in the process, how long you have been in communication with the guest family, if the guy will be coming with his parents or not, etc.
In Pakistan, speaking from my family's experience, when the matchmakers bring a rishta, the scenario is similar to what gudiaali described. You come in and greet everyone, sit for awhile, be attentive and smile then excuse yourself. There is no need to stare down. Usually the guy's mom or sister will try to engage you in a conversation so it doesn't become awkward. It also helps if the other people keep talking normally and don't become dead silent the moment you walk into the room.
On the other hand, if the guest family is someone you have met or talked to before, you might not need to leave the room and you might be more engaged in the conversation.
What I find really awkward is when the parents suggest the girl and guy should talk during the meeting. First of all, you are likely sitting far away from each other, so any talking would be heard by everyone in the room. Secondly, it is reaaaally awkward yar if the parents try to make you sit closer and then monitor how your conversation goes. I hate this part and I've told my parents please don't put me in such an uncomfortable position.
In terms of the attire, I wear Pakistani clothes (something simple, decent, respectable - that means, preferably full sleeves, no head covering but wear dupatta nicely), light jewelry, light makeup (foundation, lipstick, kajal, mascara). In case I need to serve refreshments or tea, I make sure my hands look nice and clean.
In western countries, I find the process is very different. It's much more comfortable and laid back. There are no maids (and usually no matchmakers) so you end up doing more work like making the tea yourself while your mom keeps the guests company. Once my mom left me alone with the guy's mom and went to make tea, never ever do that. It's a mistake! The evil mom bombarded me with questions and took the liberty of staring me up and down the whole time. It was really uncomfortable for me. Anyway, I feel over here it's a lot more friendly process. You entertain the family just as you would any other. And in many cases, you have spoken to the guy beforehand so it isn't a complete surprise seeing each other the first time. In any scenario, a lot depends on the families how awkward or comfortable they make it for you.
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I'm soooo glad you started this thread. I was wondering the same thing as the whole rishta process has just started for me