How do you..

Lifestyle Relationships
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thats true.. i had to tell my ex again and again that it was over and i wanted nothing to do with him and he finally got the message

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Yup. Few friends experienced this kind of behaviour and have heard stalkerish ex bf tales from them. :)

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we had a phone convo a few days back..and I told him it's over and to move on. Yet he started e-maling and sending text messages...I even replied to his email stating that it's over and I was happier now that he was out of my life, and to let me be...I even requested this nicely...and he agreed too....then the next day he sends me like 10 emails, and lots of text messages and starts calling me back to back...what the hell?...what else am I supposed to do?

I can't change my number because it will be such a hassle for me. I'd have to inform soo many people, work school etc...don't wanna deal with that mess! I'd block his number but he's calling me from different numbers...do I just keep blocking them as they come? and no I don't want to get parents involved

Also he says he will continue contacting me until I talk to him and reconsider his option for us to be friends.

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don't reply or answer his call. he'll give up eventually

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You can't be friends. If he is contacting you like that while being so adamant on reconsidering options, means he has something else going on in his mind too. You said so yourself that you are much happier now that he is out of your life, then just ignore his emails and stuff. You can't block his number or change your number but you can at least block his email, no? Don't pay attention. Its all mind games to trouble you/pressurise you and force you to rethink. Ignore.

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So, he’s giving you an ultimatum that he’ll stop bugging you only if you befriend him? Befriending him would mean having to talk to him and keep in touch with him…which is something you don’t want to do. If you are truly happy in you life without him…why did you even respond to him in the first place? He seems to have have issues…control might be one of them.

Don’t feel sorry for him and surrender to his demands…that will only encourage him. Don’t respond to his emails or text messages. No need to “explain” anything to him. Just don’t talk to him at all…ever. As far as the phone calls are concerned…when he calls, document the date/time/various phone numbers. Once you’ve established a pattern…contact the phone company.

Here’s a link you can refer to. # 7 is a possible strategy to use if you don’t want to stop harassing phone calls without contact the phone company or law enforcement…

http://www.privacyrights.org/fs/fs3-hrs2.htm

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1) As more than one person has already told you, STOP having conversations with him him!!!

2) I will repeat, do NOT repond to his e-mails!!!

3) I don't know what e-mail service you use...but hotmail, yahoo, gmail etc....if you block a person's e-mail, their e-mail will NOT come through! So if you had blocked his e-mail before, the other 10 e-mails would not have come through. And if he creates new e-mail address....well, as I said already, do NOT respond.

4) I have a personal rule regarding my cell phone. If I don't recognize the phone # that's calling me, then I don't answer it. Plain and simple. I let the call go to voicemail. If they leave me a message and if it's someone I want to talk to, then I return their call. If they don't leave me a message, then I don't return their call. It's very simple. Sooo....from now on, if you don't recognize the phone number, then don't pick up the phone.

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change ur number

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Number 4: I do the same. If it's an unrecognised number, especially out of Dubai area, I just don't pick up. I text the person back later and ask who they are, to make sure it's someone I know. Sometimes what happens is that there are people who randomly get numbers off the internet to harrass girls and if you pick up and they find out it is a girl's number, they will just keep on annoying you.

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tell him/her that they can do better. tell them more that you are not part of their world and neither end of the world. so they must save the blood, time and passion for someone who cares, worries and understands them.

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When I give my cell number to someone new, I also try to get their number and save it on my cell right then. If for some reason, I can't save their number right then, I let them know politely that when they call or text me the first time, they should leave me a voicemail OR mention in the text who they are.....b/c I don't pick up unrecognized #'s or respond to text message if I don't know who they are. I've never had anyone not understand my "rule".

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That's good Paheli :)

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Y does he call you

Why dont you get somebody else to speak to him. I would like to ask though, how did your relationship end, did you or he know the reason/closure. Maybe a proper coversation would help
If you know he will not leave you, you could get somebody else on your behalf to deal with him or help him find somebody else.

last option is to inform the authoritities

Why does This forum has so mani breakup stwories

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Stop all forms of contact with the dude. Do not be polite. Just be livid. He will give up.