define ‘a good Mother’?
What makes a mother good…?
Please do keep in mind that Career/ staying at home are personal choices…I wouldn’t like to debate about it.
I’ve yet to come up with a definition myself…n would love to see what you have to say.
Thank you!
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someone who is responsible... provides the right guidance, love and care..
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I think a good mother and a good father are the same. So a good parent to me is someone who
- does not transfer his/her loneliness or other emotional problems onto her children.
- does not live vicariously through her children because she never experienced life herself.
- a good parent is one whose life does not depend on her child's because it is only then that she will be able to teach independence to her child and the strength to stand alone
- A good parent is one who does not teach her child a religion, a truth, a right way - rather, she shows her children the choices, then the tools to decide between the choices and weigh them against one another, and then lets her child choose by his own volition "the truth" of his own choice.
- Someone who knows when to let her child go and realize that we, as humans, are "I" first and "we" second
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WOW! Another one of those topics where the poster does not want to tell people her/his own opinion but wants to hear about the others...... Great!
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i think there's no proper defination of a good mother , b/c she's just not a simple human but an institution in herself .................
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Define a bad mother first.
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WitchDr! I’m a mother myself, for almost 8 years now, Alhamdulillah!
But I’ve yet to come up with something which defines a good mother. I’m not scared of posting my views. Its just that I don’t know it myself. Sad but true!
LB To be honest, I don’t know it. It would’ve been easier to define a good mother if i knew the traits associated with bad. but alas!
I often see people blaming a misbehaviour of a child onto its parents (typically mother)…But in many cases I saw th mothers were really nice individuals, well behaved n down to earth type…n I just felt sorry for them for getting the blame. Perhaps relationships are too complex to define..???
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Being a good mother is hard..i don,t know if there are certian triats..but one does the right thing..........and it comes naturally.
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I tend to think of people as having made either good or bad choices, but then good and bad have different meanings to different people. And I dont feel that every choice a person makes necessarily defines you.
What I mean is, a mother is a mother. Her actions may be defined as good or bad by others.
If a mother does her best with the given circumstances, and by best I mean according to her and not to the rest of the world, then I feel that is a good mother.
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I think that we often don't see what happens "behind closed doors" so mothers who may seem perfectly nice and wonderful in person may be horribly abusive at home. A woman in my family who seems like the perfect mother, but has horribly behaved kids, is verbally abusive. I would not have believed it if I hadn't seen her lose it.
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Look at your self in the mirror, you'll know the answer :p