Can’t stop thinking, can’t stop feeling, can’t get up, can’t stop weeping, can’t stop giving million chances, can’t stop dying, can’t stop annihilating myself, can’t stop making justifications, can’t stop ******, can’t stop myself from ********, can’t stop *******. What well is deep enough to throw all this in? It’s not hard to forget, it’s hard to reconcile the two things tearing me apart.
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Talk to hubby...
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if we knew the nature of what is bothering u that may help us help you. Praying and crying to my hearts content on the praying mat helps a lot when im really really down. After that I have to find something to do though. Anything.
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I just can't let it go. And I can't stop blaming myself. As long as I keep blaming myself, I won't be able to walk away. But it means so much. How can I walk away from something that meant so much? Then it becomes a lie, everything becomes a lie. I'd be walking away from a wall, and I blame myself for making it a wall.
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Talk to someone
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i don't want to pray, it feels empty. I would get an empty comfort from it, it can't help.
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Phone someone and talk?
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I have realized when its hard to talk to people we know for whatever reason, its easier to share things with strangers and get feedback.
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I felt the same way few weeks ago, cried my eyes out every night, couldn't sleep. But all it took was one phonecall and crying my heart to someone. It helped because I knew someone was listening, someone wishing they could make things better(even though we knew he couldn't), someone was concerned, etc.
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I know how you feel like at this moment…Nothing helps…And I know anything I or anyone else says won’t help either…
You will only have to weather this alone…
Know that Allah :swt: is there to watch you and each of your thoughts…He is aware…He listens…He will help you…
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Sarah, sometimes you need to completely purge out all the emotion first before anything makes sense. Write it all down, go to the gym, punch a punching bag, talk to someone who really listens. This could be a therapist, bestfriend, or God. With time I hope you find a sense of peace. I pray and read Quran. It helps to set my priorities straight. Because sometimes you realize that our experience here and our emotions her on Earth are so transitory. When we feel them so much that it destroys us we need to find strength from Allah.
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Sorry to hear you're so miserable.....all I can say is hang in there. When something is bothering me, I always feel better after I talk to someone about it and get feedback.
If you're comfortable discussing this with a friend, then go ahead. You'll feel better after getting it "off your chest" so to speak. If you're more comfortable discussing it with a stranger who doesn't know you in real life at all, then find someone like that. I'd be willing to listen to you if you're comfortable discussing it with me. You can PM me and I'll give you my MSN.
Take care.
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Good advice from folks.
Sarah, I hope things get better soon for you insha'Allah hug
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sarah Hugz...
Don't listen to anyone just follow your heart. Sometimes we have to let go of something so special to us. Its like part of you is dead and rest of the part rips every second. Everything feels gray which is sort of normal. Cry, scream, go on vacation, stay away from everyone, Dont tell anyone but do let it out. The best way is to write it down in a journal every night. After a week go some where alone and read that journal.
its so easy to say it wasnt meant to be but ask that person who went through it. who lived in that phase for years and one day boom 'it wasnt meant to be' then why wasnt i told earlier.
when somethign deep inside of you dies you change... prepare for a change now...
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Time does a lot of healing.
Its hard and its something you just have to force yourself to do and work on every chance you get - but you have to learn to let things go. You can’t dwell on stuff too much. Train yourself to move onward and forward. Just dont repeat the same mistakes again, and you should sail smoothly.
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Sarah, it does not lie within the realm of possible to struggle and find all the answers in yourself. Try to relax, give yourself some margin of error, hold strong, don't blame yourself and visit a psychiatrist.