Random, lets get a few things clear :
1- I have friends in a similar dillema as you … saying yes is the issue… From their experience I have learnt that they are playing tom and jerry with their fears ! They dont have the courage to say yes to a rishta or even if a guy tries to approach them .. so where is a friendship gonna begin from? you end it even before anything starts , your fear takes over you :hinna:
Either get ready to accept your parents choice or tell yourself that you will genuinely consider a good guy’s approach as potential spouse. other wise continue to play tom and jerry with your wishes and fears
2- Its very true when they say it takes a lifetime to get to know someone… sometimes even those let us down who we have known since years … keep that in mind .. saying yes to seeing the rishta is the first step, if you like what you see , request your parents for a few more meetings with him and his family before formalizing anything… saying yes to the seeing the rishta doesnt mean you are under pressure to say yes for the shadi with him too !
They are your parents , they will be satisfied that you are taking equal interest and then when you ask for time to get to know the family and the boy better they will understand your plight. Trust me they will.
Therefore, get rid of your fear … and say YES … fairy tales exist but happen once in a while … plus i am the greatest believer of the fact that WE ourselves make our lives beautiful … its only how you see it that makes all the difference in the world and it can turn a perfectly ordinarr arranged marriage into a fairy tale one that people remember for years …
Good luck
Thanks so much for taking the time to reply back in such detail. It is so true what you say, people like me, we end it before we can actually let anything happen. But then i think whatever is meant to be will be…
Yeah i think maybe i time, i will allow myself to take the next step and actually saying yes. Lol i say that but i know when the time comes, ill only refuse or run away from the guy! haha