How do you know if he's the one?

[MustafaQuraishi]

Re: How do you know if he’s the one?

@htmwrites

As someone in your boots, i found this quite difficult too. I’ve never dated either and now this whole arranged marriage thing where it’s very difficult to decide if this guy is the one or not.

I’ve just kept in mind that it’s never like the movies, there are no violins (@MustafaQuraishi, lol, good one), he won’t sit there and stare at you like its the end of the world, he’s not going to chase you while you get shy and run around. All that is BS. You just have to ask the right questions and try to understand the guy. If his answers are what you’re looking for, stage 1= pass.

Stage 2 consists of observation. Observing how he is with his family, adults, children, if he’s kind to waiters or just a stuck up prick. You have to observe and look out for things that are red flags and look for things that you hope are in your ideal partner.

Stage 3 is talking it out with your elders and adults who have experience. I’ve seen that always helps.

This is how i see it may be, i still haven’t gotten past anyone who could answer my questions, let alone letting it get further. If i do, i’ll let you know how it goes. lol

Who ever said finding your life partner is easy was a crazy person or someone who had all the luck in the world.

and what are those questions ?

I have asked this question before and will ask again, if someone is seeing you with knowledge that you two both might get married, don’t you think he will always put the best just to impress you ?

If I am 30 years old and desperate to get married, then i will be hell sure that whenever I see a girl I will show those traits which a girl is normally impressed by.

1. I will make sure that I will show i respect women
2. I will make sure that i respect waiters, kids and respect everyone else
3. I will make sure that I have plans for my future
4. I will make sure that I will respect listening to you, your words and so on.
5. I will make sure that I put the best (fake) out of my personality just to impress you

And believe me I will do everyting given that I am 30 years old and I am desperate.

Once I am married, I no longer have to pretend what I was because now I have a girl with me …

I can never understand how these arrange marriages work. I would never understand. Either I will just take the leap of faith that OMG, the girl has beautiful eyes, lets marry and hope she will have beautiful personality … Or stay away from rishta specific dates. I would much rather talk to a girl with no intention of marrying and see how it goes.