How do you guys ignore bllsht? I hear bllsht everyday from my in-laws. they nag at me, call me names directly and indirectly. They are very uneducated. The other day we went to a dawat and FIL was sitting on the ground in a shalwar kameez, with his kameez half up, with his legs up on the coffee table and bashing Zardari by using galiyan. We were at someones house, for God’s sake and not even that close to the family! He was the only one sitting/talking like that! MIL was equally embarrassing on the ladies side, telling the this other lady in the house how their kameez is see-thru tight and why did they get a tight kameez and it doesn’t look good on them…we had met this lady for the first time! Like Seriously?!
They are evil to me at home, embarrass me outside and in front of others, say stuff that is so illiterate, make uneducated remarks…and I have really low tolerance for stupidity and ignorance! I feel like pulling my hair out when they do these kind of things, and that^ was just one LITTLE example, they embarrass me way more!
HOW should I ignore all this or get over all the evil-ness and embarrassing situations they cause?! 
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Do you live with your in laws?
I'd be very embarrassed too if I were you ...
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Do you live with your in laws? I'd be very embarrassed too if I were you ...
No, I don't. They live two houses down, but are over my house everyday from breakfast to dinner, and only go home to sleep. They might move-in with us in the near future though :(
Are your families related? You and husband
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Increase (or whatever its called) your tolerance for stupidity and things you dont like. I doubt they will change, so might as well get some peace for yourself.
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Are your families related? You and husband
No, not at all. In fact, our families are totally opposite. His family is Urdu speaking from Karachi. Mine is pukhtoon from NWFP. It was a love marriage. Does it matter if we were related though, just wondering?
Increase (or whatever its called) your tolerance for stupidity and things you dont like. I doubt they will change, so might as well get some peace for yourself.
I tried to "increase" my tolerance, but it's not happening. Seriously, it's soooo embarrassing at times. Also the other day we went to a fancy persian restaurant, and FIL calls the waiter with his SNAPPING his fingers and saying "oye"....like they do in Pakistan! The sad thing is FIL has been in the U.S for over 20 years!!!
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How do you guys ignore b*llsh*t? I hear b*llsh*t everyday from my in-laws. they nag at me, call me names directly and indirectly.** They are very uneducated**. The other day we went to a dawat and FIL was sitting on the ground in a shalwar kameez, with his kameez half up, with his legs up on the coffee table and bashing Zardari by using galiyan. We were at someones house, for God's sake and not even that close to the family! He was the only one sitting/talking like that! MIL was equally embarrassing on the ladies side, telling the this other lady in the house how their kameez is see-thru tight and why did they get a tight kameez and it doesn't look good on them.....we had met this lady for the first time! Like Seriously?! They are evil to me at home, embarrass me outside and in front of others, say stuff that is so illiterate, make uneducated remarks......and I have really low tolerance for stupidity and ignorance! I feel like pulling my hair out when they do these kind of things, and that^ was just one LITTLE example, they embarrass me way more! HOW should I ignore all this or get over all the evil-ness and embarrassing situations they cause?! :(
and when I tell people that is not only guy/girl you have to see before marriage but also Khandan if you can adjust or not tu I get a reply
"o bhai hameen zindagi tu Laerkay/Lerki k k saath guzarni hai, khandan k saath nani"
unfortunately, you are in a situation where it will be really hard to do something. Fact that your in-laws are not educated will make it harder. I am sure they do not see anything wrong in it. Can your hubby talk to his folks on this?
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and when I tell people that is not only guy/girl you have to see before marriage but also Khandan if you can adjust or not tu I get a reply
"o bhai hameen zindagi tu Laerkay/Lerki k k saath guzarni hai, khandan k saath nani"
unfortunately, you are in a situation where it will be really hard to do something. Fact that your in-laws are not educated will make it harder. I am sure they do not see anything wrong in it. Can your hubby talk to his folks on this?
Hubby doesn't say anything to in-laws at all. Even if they do evil to me, call me names, treat me bad, he says nothing at all. So when I tell him about these embarrassing things, he just says "they've grown up like that, you can't change them, and I can't say anything to them". I understand his point too, but what can I do for myself though? I literally feel like pulling my hair out, I'm not exaggerating!
In fact, hubby sometimes says there's nothing wrong with what they do.....I wanna scream my lungs out at this when he says that. I fear that one day, he'll be like his dad too, sadly, he's slowly turning into him in some ways :(