How do you handle people who pass comments about your bf/fiance/spouse’s physical appearance trying to prove themselves as funny? These are people you are frank with e.g. friends, cousins etc.
I too have come across people who act funny& comment about my other half being a bit over weight, so far i’ve ignored them but since the comments are on facebook either on a picture or some where I want to give them a close call permanently without sounding rude esp when i know he read those as well.
I know these people mean no harm intentionally but since they are frank with me they have this assumption they can make comments about him likewise which I don’t like at all.
you let them know precisely and politely that their comments are hurtful to you and your fiance. Close friendships/relationships do not license one to insult others.
How do you handle people who pass comments about your bf/fiance/spouse's physical appearance trying to prove themselves as funny? These are people you are frank with e.g. friends, cousins etc.
I too have come across people who act funny& comment about my other half being a bit over weight, so far i've ignored them but since the comments are on facebook either on a picture or some where I want to give them a close call permanently without sounding rude esp when i know he read those as well.
I know these people mean no harm intentionally but since they are frank with me they have this assumption they can make comments about him likewise which I don't like at all.
Just tell them their comments are not welcome.
You also have to check yourself if you are not being 'sensitive'.
You also have to check yourself if you are not being 'sensitive'.
Naah I am not being sensitive but I have never liked comments on any one's looks ever .. be that some one close or not specially their height, weight, features etc. Its just rude to pin point or make fun of God's creation.
Anyway, the comments make it obvious that they are being said in a light-hearted way but still they are not appreciable .
Naah I am not being sensitive but I have never liked comments on any one's looks ever .. be that some one close or not specially their height, weight, features etc. Its just rude to pin point or make fun of God's creation.
Anyway, the comments make it obvious that they are being said in a light-hearted way but still they are not appreciable .
Then just tell them upfront. Just make sure they are not so senstive that your relations with them is 'soured'.
They may feel you are not open minded.
Other way is to stop them by making counter remarks.
Never laugh at their remarks othewise they will get encouraged also your SO may not like you laughing WITH them AT him.
That's a tricky situation because you dont want to seem like you're taking it to heart and you want them to stop.
I find that most reasonable people would stop as soon as they realize they've crossed the line. So, just let them know in a half joking way that, well, their comment isn't funny. Let them know you're offended. Most people don't want to offend others. If they continue, well, then you can tell them off.
May be it is time for him to hit the treadmill which is rusting in that corner. :)
Since these comments are on FB you have the option of deleting them. You delete those comments that will give those people the message.
If the comments are on your face then you can tell them off jokingly too.
He is already going to the gym & he isnt that over weight either .. the thing is whether some one is 5 1" or is 95kg, its just not appropriate for any 3rd person to comment. I like the suggestions, went with the comment deletion one for now. Lets see how it goes!
How do you handle people who pass comments about your bf/fiance/spouse's physical appearance trying to prove themselves as funny? These are people you are frank with e.g. friends, cousins etc.
I too have come across people who act funny& comment about my other half being a bit over weight, so far i've ignored them but since the comments are on facebook either on a picture or some where I want to give them a close call permanently without sounding rude esp when i know he read those as well.
I know these people mean no harm intentionally but since they are frank with me they have this assumption they can make comments about him likewise which I don't like at all.
I find that too rude to comment on fb about his weight. you should tell your friend that you dont like it.
