How do you handle relationship with your parents ?

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How do you handle relationship with your parents ?

I have no better way to treat this but to behave as I wish.

As I noticed, all the parents quarrel with their children. Why? I think it is Generation Gap. Look, Parents born in last century had this problem, and parents of our parents also had similar problems. The rest may be deduced by analogy. Therefore, it is not the problem of new generations but the problem of generation gaps exists between generations through human history, I think.

Specificly, quarrels represents disagreement according to generation gap. This is my experience.

Parents’ thought:
I have more experience than you, so you have to listen to me!
What I tell you to do, just do it and don’t ask why.
Follow my instruction is always right.
All I ask you to do is 100% good for you, especially the decisions I make for you.

Children’s thought:
Why do I have to listen to you?
I have my freedom and my own ideas.
I must get rid of your rein.
I can do what even I want without your permittion.
Your words are nonsense!
Everything I’ve done will not please you at all.

When those children grow up and become their children’s parents, they will 180% change their mind and do the same things their parents used to do.

Why? It’s related to the age I deem. Parents are usually have more experience and experience leads them to make more right decisions than youngsters.

What is your opinion? How do you handle generation gaps?
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someone once said, ‘you don’t have to agree with them, you just love them’. I find this so damn right!
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±-> more tolerance
±-> Make them feel happy in speech ,but still behave as you wish .
It’s so-called " beautiful lies "
–>Parents are so stupid you just have to lie to them
They worry about everything in the whole wide world FOR YOUR SAKE. If there is a robbery in South America they will think the whole world including ISL is unsafe.
So I just love them, but don’t necessarily obey them. They don’t dictate my life.

–>I know sometimes its really difficult to handle the situation . My father was so upset when I first joined my Institute and Hostel . He was so worried, said it was stupid, he couldn’t understand why I wanted to go, he wished I would just stay home, look for others options for my BS Degree etc… So when I thought of moving there, I was so worried about how to handle it with him! I put it off, I thought about it and worried so much…
… then when I told him, he didn’t yell! I was so surprised! I thought “No, he will yell soon… or maybe next time we talk about it…” but nope, not at all. I told him I thought he would have yelled by now, and he said “Well, I know you’re going to do what you want to do, I can’t stop you.”

OMG, it was weird.

  • **don’t underestimate your parents, they may surprise you
  • they may understand more than you think they understand
  • even if they don’t understand you, be yourself anyway, be strong but respectful, help them to not WORRY about you, they love you and want the best for you although it may not be YOUR idea of the best.
  • when things are not well, and you disagree, assure them that you love them and you always will
  • although you may disagree instantly, listen to them, let them talk, and give their words some serious thought. Even if you know you won’t change your mind, at least hear what their concerns are and think about it. Maybe you can compromise or do something small that will make them feel better.**

Family=Father And Mother, I Love You.

But with my mom , the difference is…my mama always wins…and i can always win over my future kids..haha ..dont really win my mama seriously..she is too smart..and…very very sharp..not like me..i just talk away..haha..if i can not win…i simply have a laugh…hahahahhha

**Parents , the greatest people in the world for you! You should love them and make them Happy everyday
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another instance of posting under the influence...

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Rah man thats heavy. I personally think ALL kids have issues with their parents at some point? ITs something parents have to expect and its a part of adolesence and growing up.

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i think whatever you've outlined in your post goes both ways. parents needs to be respected for sure and loved, but so do the kids. sooner or later, parents need to recognise their kids are individuals, and one day will be adults, and rather than blindly following what parents say, need to be given the tools to make their own choices. i'd rather my kids were smoking up in my basement while i knew where they were, whom they were with and what they were doing, than out somewhere, lying to me about it all. i grew up in this generation- so-called "beautiful lies" are the ones that end up causing a **** load of trouble between parents and children. i'm not saying we wont freak out from time to time, but im hopeful that our generation will learn to be a bit more open and not so stubborn with our kids. in other words, i think the generation gap between us and our kids will be less drastic than between us and our parents.

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*Sometimes i think loving them from a distance is much easier..
And it doesn't matter what i do, nothing is enough and they're will
always be something else to pick at....
So.....
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I think it’s all about how one handle the situation. I personally wish and think that every mother and father should take a parenting course before becoming a parent (after i looked at some paki families). Parents have to be smart!
Parents and their (adult) children’s relationship depends upon many many things: how they spend money, raise children, life style, choices of friendships and peers (partners), religious beliefs.
Also I think as the family grows, some times can be stressful than other times. Old parents dealing with their burhapa (aging), health , money, retirement, and their kids must accept that their parents are older adn can not do as much as they used to do and now need help from the kids.
There also can be differences like twin-born said between parenst and children’s dream that can also be stressful. Kids may achieve all their parenst hope for but their relationship with parents may nto have respect, afection, warmth, communication. Parents sometimes might not able to help their kids financially. Parents may not be availabel to help with grandkids. The outcomes can be disappointing. :teary1:

Despite all the above, i think that kids need to spend time with their parenst and vise versa. Every family should have a special family :hehe::yummy::omg:time that they ALL can enjoy together. This can eliminate lots of problems a family might have in future.

NO matter how your parents are, you should love them....if you don't, you will REGRET for sure when YOU become a parent!!!
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well,my mother and i have a great relationship.we do things together,i work part time for her,and we are always there for each other.granted,we don't always see eye to eye.but instead of argueing with her,i will come home,or if i am home,i will turn the ringer off on my phone till i calm down.i won't argue with my mother and my hubby totally respects her:)

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i have a great relationship with my parents, especially my mum - we obviously have our ups and downs like everyone else, but the good thing is that we can openly talk to each other and resolve problem matters before they escalate....