How do you go about managing daughters' interaction with Uncles etc

[Muzna]

Re: How do you go about managing daughters’ interaction with Uncles etc

@Deeba1234

^No.

I find it ethically disturbing to suggest it’s ok to allow someone you know might be predatory to stay or live in the same home.. No ifs and buts about it, they should be reported imo.. If a wife or other family hushes it up or simply tries to keep tabs on the kids that’s not the answer.. as well as being highly impractical..

I want my kids to live ‘normal’ lives, not ones will filled with fear and wrapped in cotton wool.. I don’t believe that any man is a potential molester lol.. As a child I went swimming with other kids, I went on school trips etc.. To me that’s a normal and healthy childhood, even if it might only be seen favourably by the minority in our culture.. I think we almost ‘apologise’ if men behave inappropriately and feel that expecting others to adapt or change rather than confronting them is a major problem.. It’s an idea which makes me extremely uncomfortable..

I have no respect for families who think one of their male members might have such ‘inclinations’ but choose to hush it up and/or expect the potential victims to have to change..

I’m not sure that you understood what I said.
I did not suggest that anyone, man or woman, with questionable tendencies or inclinations be allowed to get away with their behaviour.

What I suggested is that all “potential victims” be safeguarded (i.e. taught how to protect themselves as well as chaperoned). And I say this for two reasons:

1. Because the safeguarding should happen whether or not an internal potential threat is identified and
2. Because you never know what a child will face in the big bad world where you are not around to protect them.