I’m not married or anything but here is what I would do:
I might sound like a mullah but there’s no better way of controlling my anger than to recite Ayah’s and to remember the hadiths…
“The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger.”
Muttaqun OnLine - Anger: According to Quran and Sunnah
That’s all u need to read up on and Inshallah u will never get angry n shout again… worked for me… and believe me I’m really short-tempered… I was so desperate I even tried the stress ball at one point!!! lol