How do You define/set boundaries?

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Re: How do You define/set boundaries?

@Mirch

Based on your other thread on advice about in law problem and the information you provided. Buying a home to impose your rules is not going to help. Two separate homes or two separate portions/units of a house is the solution to the issues you raised in that thread.This way as per wishes of your husband they can live with him and also live the way they want it and you can live with your husband the way you want to.They cook their own food , take care of the home/portion/unit their way and you do the same.As you know in this situation you cannot tell them my way or highway and they cannot do that either. Other than that when your in laws move into new house you hang a banner declaring “My home my rules”. I am sure you will not do that and your husband and your in-laws will flip out too.

I don’t obviously want to make it that obvious but I want them to consider my feelings too. I really really would like a 2 unit home. I don’t know where to loom for them. people are only selling one unit of the two. I have looked not found many that I could afford. Any idea how else I can refine my search? That would really be ideal.