Goodbyes always hurt. Letting go of someone who once meant so much to you is extremely hard. Anyone, a bestfriend, getting over a divorce, the breaking of an engagement, moving away from home etc… It’s not easy to just move on with life.
Saying goodbye to someone who once meant so much to you is always hard, nonetheless it’s life and we are forced to let go of people we don’t want to let go of all the time.
How do you cope with goodbyes?
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Times heals everything! :) You get used to living without them with time! And also, there would come people who would replace them in your life.
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When the heart weeps for what it has lost, the soul smiles for what it has found.
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No matter how much you love anyone. Sooner or later you would be separated from him/her (either through his/her death or your own). When one loves people only for the love of Allah (swt), encourage each other to do good deeds and discourage bad deeds, Allah (swt) would reunite them in the life of hereafter (forever), that includes the life of the grave as well. I remember reading it somwhere that Allah (swt) would even permit them to visit each others grave (from their own grave) and vice versa.
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No matter how much you love anyone. Sooner or later you would be separated from him/her (either through his/her death or your own). When one loves people only for the love of Allah (swt), encourage each other to do good deeds and discourage bad deeds, Allah (swt) would reunite them in the life of hereafter (forever), that includes the life of the grave as well. I remember reading it somwhere that Allah (swt) would even permit them to visit each others grave (from their own grave) and vice versa.
Wow, really?
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^ Yes. In fact, when one recites Darood sharif and Quran for one's parents. The blessings are distributed in the whole graveyard in which their parent's grave is present. Pious people of other graves in that graveyard come to visit those parent's grave to thank them (for the blessings distributed to them) and congrtulate them for having such a pious son/daughter. Due to which those parents feel proud of their chidlren who sent them blessings through Quran recitation and good deeds.
On the other hand, when children waste time here and there, and can't spare time for sending blessings to their parent's grave, those parents feel very sad for being ignored by their own children. At times months and years pass in such a way and those parents realize their mistake of not teaching/educating their own children with the knowledge of Quran and hadith, hense those children are lost in their own desires, rarely caring about their parents whom they assum to be in heaven, but their true situation is only known to Allah (swt). Still, every good deed of children keeps on rising their degree, till they reach high degrees in heaven.
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Waqt E Rukhsat Alvida Ka Lafz Kehnay Ke Liye
Woh Tera Ro Ro Ke Bhi Mujhko Rulana Yaad Hai
Chupke Chupke Raat Din...
(Hasrat Mohani)
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WAQT hey ek important cheez
-DP
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Bah, this makes me sad. I am horrible dealing w/ this stuff. Thankfully, I didn't have to deal w/ losing a SO or failed relationship etc but I can't even imagine. I know this isn't helpful but there are some people who can't deal w/ good byes and stay in a funk for the longest time.
I think giving it time (you eventually do learn to accept it, I guess) and having a supportive circle of friends and family to talk to also helps. And think of that mother who recently lost BOTH her parents and ALL of her kids (3 daughters) on Christmas, all at the same time in a house fire. :(Looking at the extremes almost always helps keeps things in perspective.
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Letting someone go who is very dearly to ya is hardest thing. I do miss my dear someone..but i had to let her go for her own good. But somehow time still didn't heal my wounds. I pray for the best of her..!
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I just think that inshAllah I will meet them in the hereafter and it makes me feel so much better. You have to remind yourself that although we are with each other as friends, family, siblings etc. first and foremost we belong to Allah swt. Each one of us.
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When you move away the people you love will still be your mum,dad, brother,sister,friends,cousin etc etc. You moving away is not gonna change that. In todays day and age you can connect with them by all sorts of ways that you couldnt have done even 10 years back. A wise person told me "make your surrounding society your family". That wise man is my dad. Im 20 and live half way across the world from my family but my family are still alive, healthy and happy and as someone a few posts up said, looking at the extremes helps keeps things in perspective