Are you the quiet brooder who sits there and thinks about it?
Or are you the one who wants to have it out immediately?
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a lot of damage can be caused if the anger just explodes on the spot though
instead of going up to the person and having a screaming back and forth fest, I would rather write what caused me to get angry with the person and that helps lower my anger, I can think a bit more rationally after thinking about it completely from all sides and writing and seeing it on paper
after that i try to talk calmly with the other person. it's all learned personal behavior. If the other person still doesn't see my side of the situation or see reason there is still that side of me that is a little stubborn, more like "WTH it makes sense to me why can't you see it my way"............still working on that side of myself :-D
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Depends on who makes me mad...I normally have LOADS of patience..but when I lose it...I dnt know what I say and I dnt know what I do sometimes!! I have only lost my temper twice in a bad way...I remember it so well..coz I have never lost it like that....and I don't want to again either.
Most of the time I sit and just brood...or I jst wait till am alone and then explode and say all the crazy words I want to say!!! :D
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^ This.
Im a very nice person but when I lose my temper..I ask to be left alone, if they still bug me I could become the cruelest creature in the entire world. I say the harshest stuff ever that one could never imagine in their wildest dream.
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Neither do I bottle up, nor release it totally/immediately. Both are harmful. Usually something in between works for me, but in different forms (depending upon the person & the situation I am dealing with). Sometimes, to some people you have to convey (one way or the other) that his/her repetitive provoking behavior isn't tolerable anymore. Sometimes anger managment helps in focusing more on positive/creative work/ working out. Sometimes cold water (drinking/doing ablution) helps in forgiving & forgetting. For strangers quietness (ignoring) helps....etc. Mostly when I feel angry, I try to calm myself by thinking of the negative consequences of my anger, that are mostly incurable. Because while angry, one is easily vulerable to do/say the most destructive things (physically/mentally/spiritually) to oneself, to people around and to one's relationship with them.
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i drink my anger ..........
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Sharpen my knives.
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I touch myself when I am really angry. That is like my spiritual journey from the state of being upset to the mystical state of contentment, serenity and poise. The greatest gift god has given me is myself.
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"Auzubillahi minashaitan nirrajeem" is a cure for anger. When said, it removes the effect of the devil (that runs through ones veins like blood when one is angry, and can make one do anything at that stage).
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"Auzubillahi minashaitan nirrajeem" is a cure for anger. When said, it removes the effect of the devil (that runs through ones veins like blood when one is angry, and can make one do anything at that stage).
Okay this is actually true. If I say this a few times...I feel better.
I am one of those brooders that doesn't talk about things immediately. Ever. I process it for ages before I actually talk it out.
That is bad.
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St. John's Wort!
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app bhi na.
I let it out with close family & have regretted it bad later ...
These days the temper outflow is way too much :-/
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whatever i do, it has to be followed by crying. If i keep it in,i cry. if i say something mean i cry too.
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Usually i am very calm person. But if it is something to be said that i am upset with someone. I would let them know. However, when i get angry i do not talk..and if i do..then i'll explode and yaa like Sanaa said..i can say stuff which people never expected me to say every. So i knowing myself that my anger is very bad i tend to explode "this one time".
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i always keep it inside, cant just let it out at that moment. feels better to discuss it once im cooled down
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HNK..i know ya're angry at me..
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I have found that throwing things can bring immense relief at times…good for my frustrations, bad for the wall which now has a huge hole in from where the staineless steel piggy bank made impact :sid:
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i do wadu. then my behavior change with positive energy.
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ohh..I have done that too…once with a remote and once with my mobile
For the mobile..my dad asked me what happened..and I said “Oh..I dropped it down the stairs!”