Re: How do you cope ?
james bhaand bhai,
if i may, you are the reason why your family is full of life, mashallah.
the cope part is, from what i see around and have read in my life development books, that it is alright if strong parents, are at times a bit concerned about being the best and gettting every thing done.
as a head of the house hold, you are great. and look at what you have... bhabi, and two kids and one on the way, inshallah, you are working, you have a home and you are a nice person.
so, damn, its alright to be reflecting on coping :>
i agree, that kids that age must not cross roads, alone.
please always be with them or drop them at the school.
you make do. you do all you can to keep the family safe and your self happy in the thought that as a family man, you bravely are doing this, out of love for them, of course.
now, as for a new place. i am sure you have a ph and you are able to call on trusted friends. do some gardening now that spring will come, inshallah.
read a couple of books on parenting (i can tell you some titles: if you have a daughter you should read this one: Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters by Meg Meger, M.D.).
you are not alone in this. but what you are doing and doing it right, creatively, can prove to be help for the next generation of parents and family women and family men. :>
so, take a deep breath, please drink a fresh and strong cup of tea. thank Allah swt for what you have, which is priceless, mashallah.
and get to work, buddy! :>
best,
Dushwari behan
How do you guys cope with life's occasional nasty little surprizes ?
I am at a dead end right now. Over the past couple of weeks, kids had to miss school quite often, as I am at work and wife is not in a condition to drop them at school. She is in her late pregnancy and due to some complications doctors have advised her not to walk too much. My kids are 10 and 8, the school is situated at about a 10 minute walk from home, and there is a busy road that has to be crossed. We are not comfortable with them walking to school alone.
The school has denied giving us the bus facility because of some stupid rule.
Apart from that, on 3 or 4 occasions I have had to rush the wife to the hospital in the middle of the night, imagine dragging 2 kids out of their warm beds at 1:00 AM in the night and stuffing them in the car to go to the hospital with us, for no fault of their own, just because they cant be left alone at home. And there they had to sit with us all night, waiting and waiting and waiting, sheer torture for them.
I was wondering, I can't be the only one who is going through this, there must be other folks who are / have been through such times.
How did you work your way around it. Please bear in mind that I have recently moved, and in this new place I dont know anybody, no family or friends that I can ask for help.