Re: How do you choose between 2 families/rishtas.
I live in Pakistan and though a lot goes on around me but yes it still happens this way here.
I have seen both girls and they have seen me....and that is what Islam says....as for the talking part.
What do you learn by talking to a girl for a while..or to a boy if you are a girl?...Not much but then again it is not an option.
I've seen so many people and girls ...please do not drag me further....These two are alright but how do you decide?
Both of them are religious...like say their prayers etc.....I have seen many who say prayers but have no fear of Allah in thier heart...so now I pray for that.
I also pray that Allah does what he thinks is best.
Istikhara: I'd be grateful if someone would suggest the proper way.
All the above are answers to things people have asked or commented on.
My belief........Only Allah knows what is ahead and not much point in talking to the girl etc....let me make it clear that that is also what the girls themselves have conveyed to their parents so no one is forcing them not to talk.
BUT then one has to decide between the two.