Re: How do you bring your self esteem up again?
It’s a situation of me thinking a guy that i’ve been with not too long a couple weeks, thinking I could trust him, he just seemed like the type that would never cheat on me. There weren’t any red flags especially about being faithful. Then again we weren’t nikaahfied or anything but I was thinking he was the one for me since I thought I was careful with not being emotionally attached and being practical and looking at compatibility. I found out that his parents already planned marriage for him with some other girl, his family members were congratulating him about not being able to wait to plan the wedding under comments for a new picture he had posted in his facebook profile and I find this out not from him but when I had reopened my Facebook account since I had totally deleted my account about a year ago and he knew that.
After asking him over and over again and him saying no that he wasn’t talking with any other girls except me, the truth finally comes out when I told him that I saw it on Facebook. He finally vomits out everything about how he was messaging and emailing a girl from his home town that was a marriage match for an arranged marriage. I see myself as someone that is not cut out for relationships after this. My body was completely shaking with jealousy and pain when I saw her Facebook profile, I guess i was emotionally attached to him deep down and had hope for something with him. Blocked both of their profiles from facebook and I’m not accepting any messages, calls from him even if he called 8 times and left voice messages like it’s not a big deal. He’s basically dead to me since I trusted him, didn’t expect this from him. He said his hands are tied and that he has no choice with this because his parents are strict about the girl has to be from his hometown or some BS like that. Some of these desi men are such cowards. I guess mentioning me to his parents was never on his mind. I just didn’t think it would cause so much pain for me since I was practical about it or tried to be practical.