when someone asks you a question about something that you are not allowed to tell about.
my husband told me something about my sil which she told him and told him specifically not to tell anyone. she hasnt told me herself and has been avioding for a while so she really doesnt want to talk about this very big issue with me. but hubby told me...
and now someone asked me a direct question about her for which I had no clue of how to answer cuz I didnt want to lie about it and by saying I dont know I would imply the answer anyways. I just said I havent been in touch with sil for a while but this lady could see that something wasnt right. and now I am afraid that she is gonna ask again.
how do you guys deal with such confusing situations?
I don't think there's anything wrong with saying, " I haven't been in touch with SIL in a while." It's a simple and smart response. It's reasonable and there's nothing hard to believe about it. If you tell someone that you haven't spoken to her lately, the person can't hold you accountable for not being "up to date" about the situation. Chameli, trust me.........I EVEN KNOW about sisters-in-law who only LIVE within minutes from each other and they STILL don't know what's going in each others lives because they're so busy with their own chores. Your response was fine. And it's no business of a non-related person to interfere in your SIL's private life anyway. If the person persists in being nosy........shame on them.
Other responses you can give are:
"It's her own personal matter, I haven't been told anything about it."
OR
"My family considers this a confidential matter. However, I appreciate your concern in asking, but Alhumdolillah everything is fine." (This way the person understands that the matter is private and backs off).
OR
Smile at the aunti and give her a vague response. "My SIL's doing well, Alhumdolillah. Everything is fine. She's a smart and independent girl and she's handling life to the best of her ability like the rest of us."