My friend’s sister has been trying to find a rishta for a long time but to no avail. Every time I meet that friend, the poor guy is worried about his sister especially since she’s starting to age.
I have briefly talked to her on occasions and she seems to have a pleasant personality. But the problem is that to put it nicely, she’s extremely unattractive and presumbly that’s quite literally scaring the rishtas away.
What can they do? How can they land a suitable rishta? more makeup etc or what?
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How will creating such a thread enable you to help your friend's sister?
Will you tell your friend, "So...uh...dude....here's some advice on how your sister can make herself more attractive." ?? And how would your friend respond to that? And what if your friend is already aware that his sister is not conventionally pretty?
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I've seen people that I personally don't find attractive, but yet they are in a strong and loving marriage. Because someone finds them attractive....not only physically....but personality-wise as well.
At the same time, I've seen women who are frequently perceived as being "pretty" turn off many people (including men) with their toxic personalities.
If this girl is overweight, perhaps she can work on shedding some pounds......not to attract a mate.......but for her own health and self-esteem. If it's her clothing that's the problem, perhaps someone can suggest to her styles that would flatter her more. You can't change your facial features unless you go under the knife, but make-up can help play up her more attractive features. But most people....if they eat healthy, get enough sleep, exercise, dress right, and have a positive attitude.......will appear more attractive.
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whats the definition of unattractive here? i mean, is she bald? dark, short, fat, skinny, fat and short, tall and skinny? dark,skinny and short..? dark , fat , bald? :|:|
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^ That's a good point as well.
Does the poster plan to suggest outlets for finding a rishta (matrimonial services, etc)?
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redvelvet, yeah ofcourse i aint gonna do that. But the fact that's he's always telling me abt these rishta issues, i guess indirectly means hes asking for help. I just nod along cuz i dont wanna say anything inappropriate.
frozenfire, hate to be crude, she's short and very fat/round like a bowling ball.
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The next time your friend complains, ask him "Well, I can see that you're concerned about your sister and you want to see her settled. MashaAllah she has a nice personality and is educated. So.......what do YOU honestly think might be causing the rishta issues? I know that you're her brother, but you're also a guy......and you are able to see things from a male perspective. Is there anything that you honestly feel is getting in the way of progress?"
And if your friend then says, "Well....uh....my sister is really smart and has a really wonderful personality. But she's a bit on the heavy side and that might be deterring the guys." THEN...........you can use this as a segway/opportunity to give him advice about her weight and how to reduce/manage it.
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It's also possible that maybe your friend mentions his concern over his sister............as an indirect hint to YOU.......hoping that you might suggest some potential rishtas for her......or that you might keep an eye-out for some rishtas/guys.
Or.....maybe he's hinting that YOU might consider her.
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Attractive and unattractive girls get married wen it's their time to, there's no forcing such things. Regardless of how she looks [short,tall,dark,fair,etc.]. Has no one given her sincere advise to get rid off bowling ball shape?
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^^^good advice.
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Enya,
I know a couple of girls in that situation who are pretty overweight and single. And their families have advised them **numerous times **to lose weight. Often times, parents are aware of concerns in children's physical appearance. But there could be health problems (thyroid/hormonal problems) that are hindering weight loss. Maybe it's stress. I've heard that stress is the main cause for obesity in young adults. And some people are also naturally big-boned. They can lose weight.......but they'll never have that stick-thin/slim look because of their naturally broader bone structure.
I think it also has to do with kismat. I've seen women/men who are overweight.....and might not be considered attractive by many people..........BUT..........they're happily married. Everything is destined by Allah.
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Everybody has a soulmate in this world, iA' I hope she finds someone who does not judge her on her outer beauty.
Now boii, if you do find some tips, what will do with them and how will you pass them on? Are you gonna email your friend this thread? Air mail in these suggestions? Talk to her mom and dad? Do tell!
Now boii, if you do find some tips, what will do with them and how will you pass them on? Are you gonna email your friend this thread? Air mail in these suggestions? Talk to her mom and dad? Do tell!
leave that to me. tumhe kiya takleef hai?
leave that to me. tumhe kiya takleef hai?
Takleef would be more evident if Gaia was bothered by it. She's not takleefed. She's merely curious like myself as to how you plan to go about helping this girl become more attractive?
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I'll just tell my friend kinda like u laid out redvelvet. That way, he'll prolly stop bugging me.
leave that to me. tumhe kiya takleef hai?
Yes exactly my point! Tumhe kiya takleef hai? He never asked you to help him, he was just sharing some stress he has upon him as a brother, so its not your problem nor is it your responsibility. This is a very personal family issue, so you should keep out.
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obviosuly Gaia you have no good friends. The reason he's sharing this with me is indirectly asking for help. And as a friend, I'll atleast give him some advice, even if it bugs me to no end.
Anyways, I dont want this thread to go off-topic. So I'm not going to respond further to any post that doesnt deal with the issue in hand.
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Whatever you do, Yea Boii, don't bring up the issue of her weight first. Let your friend bring it up if he feel like it. And if he does mention her weight, then you can NICELY suggest strategies (going to the doctor, personal trainer, gym, diet/exercise plan, etc). And that way you won't come across as offensive because you weren't the first to bring up her weight issues.
Also, to calm your friend down, you can tell him that if you see a potential rishta, you'll let him know. You can also suggest various matrimonial services.
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"Indirectly" <this can go both way, do keep that in mind! No matter how good of a friend he is, no brother would want to hear from his friend by the way, on how to get his sister to be more attractive. Again leave it to the family, i'm sure the moms and the women of the family are already after her (its what we do as desi women).
Also, to calm your friend down, you can tell him that if you see a potential rishta, you'll let him know. You can also suggest various matrimonial services.
great point!
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Yeah good point on having him bring up the weight issue. Oterwise i come off as rude.