i personally dont like arguing…if someone disagrees to my views i never try to convince them to it.i prefer staying quiet and keeping my views to myself:chai:
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Re: how do u normally tackle with an argument?
penguin, dear. argumenting is a science and an art.
being forthright and saying the rght things, the true facts is essential.
it is a good thing to listen and be quiet initially. but when the other person clearly begins to sound and act selfish, ignorant and a liar, that he be corrected.
arguments can remain civil if a person has made up her or his mind to stay focused on their principles.
the comfort level and closeness in a relationship will also ease arguments, because then they will turn into thought processes to be brought to an illuminating end for a win-win situation as ideally both people have one end in mind, for their trust and affinity with the resulting preferred decision and each other will be dear to both.
arguments dont become or remain successful when one side is selfish, insensitive, ill-confident in wn self and the other person, and a deceitful liar.
best,
Dushwari
Re: how do u normally tackle with an argument?
I fight and fight and either win it or lose it but do not compromise on my integrity and truthfulness - I will rather lose like a man or win like a champion ....
BUT I also try to avoid "fitnas" and something that is done on purpose to provoke me...
When it's too hot, go in hibernation, reflect upon what had happened, think objectively and when you will return after some times is elapsed, things will seem different...
Not everytime, this happens though :)
Re: how do u normally tackle with an argument?
I argue to the point where I see the other person is open for a fair discussion. When the arrogance takes over I walk away.
Lakum deena kum wa lee a deen.
Translation:
For you your way and for me mine.
It is the best verse from holy Quran for our guidance.
Lakum deena kum wa lee a deen. It is the best verse from holy Quran for our guidance.
True ... good thinking... but that verse is only related to the part on religion when you are interacting with people of different faith and once you have done the job, you can walk away if it is not accepted..
Surah A'araf Ayat 199 is actually dealing with people regardless of any religion...
It talks about enjoining the good and forbiding the evil and staying away from the Jaahiloon (Ignorants)...
Re: how do u normally tackle with an argument?
so you believe on a fact that "everything is connected"
so start looking for patterns until you start acknowledging a sequence....and automatically everything will make sense to you...and it wont be hard then to win any argument.
ps. no one gonna tell u this thing :).... many successful people are afraid to lose faith that they have on themselves
…I will tickle/tackle annie argument as long as She is Good Looking..
yeaa samee. i absloutely hate arguments and it only takes me about a few lines in and then i give up. i can’t stand ppl who argue just for the sake of arguing even though they know they’re wrong! I know many ppl like that who go on and on making up stuff just to prove a pointless point lol
but, if i feel really strong or sure about something i push a bit father.
i have learned on this forum, just recently actually.. that there is no point in arguing..because even if you start out with a clean argument it usually gets messy. and hten namecalling starts and hten members start 2 gang up on u soemtimes 2. so now i dont care 2 try 2 convince anyone. its ont worth fighting and getting tied up in a knot. its better 2 just leave the scene or ignore them and talk aobut soemthign else. soemtimes its just better 2 shut-up!
thank GS 4 teaching me this valuable life lesson. :)
Re: how do u normally tackle with an argument?
soni27,
good observation. know that arguments are a way to clarify own ideas as well. even when to be taken with a grain of salt, they should not be resented against unless the other person is really not listening and having a self righetous argument.
best,
Dushwari
Re: how do u normally tackle with an argument?
arguments r good if both parties try to understand wat the others r saying and observe it and then make decisions
arguments r necessery for the development of personality and mind
thats y i always wondered y pingoos brain i sso tiny:chai:
Re: how do u normally tackle with an argument?
I avoid it 
Re: how do u normally tackle with an argument?
Just give them enough rope and eventualy they will hang themselves.
awwaa sweetie gizzyy…
yea so do i…i avoid!!
yes its good unless the other person doesnt get aggressive over it
thats wat happens most of the time
arguments always end up in yelling at each otehr , so better stay outof them:@:
Re: how do u normally tackle with an argument?
depends on the mood - i can be a real fighter and i can also be as deaf as a door post
Re: how do u normally tackle with an argument?
tackle with an argument? u mean noora kushti? 
main nain kabhi argument kay saath kushti nahin ki 
Re: how do u normally tackle with an argument?
I think the best way to test out the nice answers you all gave above is to start a real argument here, and then see how you guys tackle it. :D
As a starter, AQ, you are wrong. Mirch, you are wrong too. And while we are at it, K337, this is the most boring thread possible.
Cheers!
Thanks for the participation… Please, carry on… who cares 
next please 
Re: how do u normally tackle with an argument?
AQ, you are still wrong :p