How does married life change after a baby is born? Does ones world only circulate around the life of the baby or does love also increase between husband and wife? Im expecting my 1st one and (obviously) dont know what to expect later on. I mean will things stay the same between my husband and me (as far as feelings are concerned), or will life become unromantic?
Plz can someone tell me what life is like after baby number one comes… thnx 
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Snickers it all depends on u; obviously, you will be looking after the baby, but don't forget to involve him in everything. I have seen mothers where they became over protective that they thought their own husband is not capable enough of taking care of their baby. And thats where everything starts to go down. You have to give him time, ask him to help around and stuff. This is not my experience but I know a lot in regards to this.
And my heartiest congrats to parents, may Allah bless you with a healthy child. ameen.
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Snickers, life as you knew it is over. Khattam shud, end, finita. No more romance, nada...Get all of those things in now before the baby is born...after that its the baby this and baby that....
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Snickers, dont listen to the malcontents. Becoming a parent is the most joyous thing that could ever bless your life. Things of course will be very different between you and your hubby, no more come - n - go as you please and no more afternoon delight unless baby happens to cooperate....but that aside, its the very best blessing ever. Enjoy to the fullest and may you be blessed with a healthy happy baby
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i dont have any personal experience in this matter but what i do know is that the outcome of one's relationship after having a baby is totally up to the couple. Naturally, when a baby is born the parents become very busy. Most of the time it's the mother that becomes too preoccupied with the baby which is completely understandable. However, with that said it is up to the wife/mother to involve her husband in the entire child rearing process so that he doesnt feel left out. It is up to the mother/wife (since she is the one with the child most of the time) to make time for her husband even if it means just spending 10 minz of quite time together while the baby is sleeping. Also if you have grandparents around..be sure to take advantage of it. Allow them to spend time with the baby as well while you guys get to sneak in some alone time.
good luck and congrats on the upcoming arrival of your baby.
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I don't think its only up to the wife. I think its upto both the husband and wife. The wife to, as you said, try to make time for her husband and involve him in baby-related activities.
The husband, to actually respond positively to these attempts to involve him in baby-related activities.
Gimme a break. A lot of desi husbands seriously believe that it is not their job to change diapers, feed the baby, spend time with the baby, teach the baby basic things like sitting and walking and talking, etc. I've seen some really backwards men, not in my family thank-God, but these guys are real jerks. Its like as if they don't know their own kids.
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well the reason i said it is up to the woman is because she is the one that spends most of her time with the baby. In most cases, the mother doesnt even allow her husband to take care of her baby because she thinks she is the only one that can do so.
i agree…there are guys out there that dont want to be involved in taking care of their kids. Those are usually the kind of guys that dont have a connection with their wives to begin with.
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They don't miss a chance for sex, though.
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lol yea they dont…and when the woman is sleepy and tired they complain!!! 
maybe if they helped a litte they wouldnt be so damn tired.
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aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaandddddddddddd...we're there again..
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PcG,
I think even the Pakistani man is changing these days.. there was a time when they were like that.. some still are.. but on the whole iv seen a great change.. 2 of my brothers are fathers and theyv shared waking up in the nights and theyv shared care for the baby..
Hell.. my dad did all that 20 odd years ago.. he used to come home from work and roll his sleeves up and ask my mum where she wanted him to start.. :)
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why do we end up on male bashing, why can’t we all just stick to topic and let this woman make feel better about it. She is going through a tough time and ofcourse she is scared and wants some opinions to help her out.
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I'm a gori and my hubby is a desi...what a beautiful, wonderful man he is. I never had an epidural but I never could have made it thru labor and delivery without him. He was just the best, giving massage exactly where it hurt the most, giving encouragement and most of all, just wanting to be there with me and our newborns. Then as a daddy, he helps with diapers, feedings, housework, cooking. we live in usa and have no household help and even with the heat he can sometimes get from those "back home", he still helps out in just about everything at home. Not ALL men are pigs pcg! Hold on to hope! Good men are out there. When you have a true partner and real love, having a baby brings you closer together.
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what a beautiful, wonderful man he is.
Oh darling, worry not about me. There are indeed a few men out there that are not pigs, and I’m confident I’ll nab one. 
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If I ever had a twins babies, I would name them Itchy and Scratchy.
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PCG, you go girl!!! I have no doubt you will! Inshallah!!
CB,,,how about beavis and butthead? Thats my 2 eldest.
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You got that right…Sex is wealth…the more the merrier
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eh....every time I hear/read the word Detriot...this feeling of gloom and sadness overcomes me....I must have typed that response during one of those times.... Detriot sucks
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well MAYBE u should stop thinking about Detroit? (I know its so beautiful, its not an easy place to forget)