How do Pakistani men show they really like u? Do cultural differences really matter?

[diwana]

Re: How do Pakistani men show they really like u? Do cultural differences really matt

@steph

I have been seeing a very sweet Pakistani man for about 4 months now. Our relationship is a little confusing for me. I am Latina and am used to dating Latino/White guys, who tend to be very forward and upfront about whether they are into you (very touchy-feely, flirty, verbal). However, this very educated and respectful man of Pakistani descent (he grew up in London) never even tried kissing me or holding my hand until after 2 1/2 months of dating. Also, he is not very verbal about his feelings and is kinda awkward in public.

Nevertheless, he calls/texts me a lot and always asks to see me at least 2-3 times a week. Both of us have very busy lives and live a little far apart so we don’t have time to see/talk every single day. Something that I really appreciate. Nowadays he does kiss/hug me when we’re alone, but never in public. He’s not a practicing Muslim and all of his family is back in the UK.

Do you think he considers me his girlfriend by now? Are there cultural differences in dating? I don’t like to assume either way, but I usually wait for the guy to tell me how he feels.

I only ask because I want to be sensitive to the culture and not be pushy… but then again if a White/Latino guy was acting like this, I would think he wasn’t that into me if by now he did not make it explicit. I am really into him, but I don’t want to get my hopes up, if you know what I mean.

I appreciate any feedback.

Wash your hands next time…use better perfume.. J/K

Chances are:

He thinks men usually do not kiss ‘hands’ of women/gf.

He is just shy. And he is public conscious.

He does not want to give you too much hope yet.

Does not see public display of affection good practice.