cope with my fathers death as I could not go to him in Pakistan and could not be there when he was buried.
I won’t be able to go to his grave or see my mother for a few months still.
very sad and distraught.
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pray for his soul's salamati. talk to your relatives back home. talk to your mother, and be brave for her sake as well.
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^ Ditto
Secondly - Time is the best healer. You will get over it in due time 
God made us this way - so that we can survive in this world
When my father died, I used to go to the graveyard everyday, and thought that it would be impossible to live now onwards.
With the passage of time the visits were limited to Fridays only-Then monthly..
Then only on Eids …
And now - I dont remember when was the last time I visited
Probably in 1999 / 2000
I doesnt mean that I dont love my father’s memories any more. Its human nature. Something like a built-in mechanism from Allah (swt), that helps us get over it and learn to live with these inevitable episodes of life.
So Hang in there mate 
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Dont worry brother. It was from Allah. Whatever Allah does, he does best. Have patience. Make plenty of duas for your father.
Seek advice from some imams or molanas.
I know its very hard but may Allah be with you.
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patience patience and patience is the best thing.....allah (st) is testing u and the more patience u have the more happy he will be but if u decide to get angry then no1 can help u.
when my father passed awai o used to have him cum to my dreams every night nd every night all he wuld sai is "...... beti sabar say kaam rakhna" and no im very happy altough i dnt have a lot
i hope that helps as real life situations tend to help.
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One of my cousin and my grand mother passed away and I couldn't go to Pakistan. its been more than a year now. We were so close and I don't know how would i handle it when i visit but am sure it'll be ok after a while.
Just keep praying. Ramadan is the best time to pray for them as well as yourself. InshaAllah you'll feel better - just give it time (which i understand is very hard)
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Time is a great healer.
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I won't be able to go to his grave or see my mother for a few months still.
very sad and distraught.
My father died in 1987, i was just 10 yrs old that time, i have a big family with 4 sisters and 1 brother, only two sisters got married and i belong to a caste where dowry is in huge amount 30/40 lakhs INR for a middle class family
and he is the main source of income and everyone studying that time
though my mother is not that educated she brought up us with good education and by god's grace we are all in good position now
Though i'm hindu we buried the body we don't burnt as other people do, we don't go and pray very often, my grandfather we buried in my Mango Garden
don't know whether the grave is still there as we sold the garden
as the time goes you will forget everything and you will overcome the loss
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allah aap ko sabr day (aamen)
you should think about your mother and other family members and exchange words with them ..
i hope this helps .
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**'Ina li llahi wa inna 'ilayhi Raji'un (We are for Allah, and to Him is our return),'
May God bless his soul and shower HIS countless mercies on him (ameen)
Please just pray for him a lot and this is the best thing which a son can do for his father, May God give you peace (ameen)**
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Sorry About your situation:(
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This thread made me cry instead I give u some support I myself...
khair...
Talk to ur mother daily, and support her, she need you now ... don't leave her alone ... for him recite daily Soorat Al-Yasin, and Ramazaan try to arrange iftaar party in nearby Masjid for sake to send sawaab for his soul...
As other said, its part of play on stage of our life, it has to happen, soon or later but it is a must, ... u can't do anything, jus pray for him, support your family emotionaly, they wont tell but they need you, be there for them always, and apni ammi jaan ki jitni qidmat hosakay karo, cuz she is the one who will be missing him more than you ...
Allah un ko jannat naseeb karay , and aap ki family ko sabar ata farmay ... aamin summa aamin ...
my papa passed away in 1995, but there is not a single day when we forget him, we feel he is always with us,