i just have this stupid and nagging habit of just caring too much…like if i have anything in work that isnt going right..id be really stressed about it…or if there is someone that I really care abt..id be very protective of them and feel angry if something/or someone does bad to them..
now this habit is sorta like a double-edged sword..i mean it makes me a good employee or a good friend..but makes my life pretty darn miserable..
so how can i change this?
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Well i try to make my point to someone but htey just keep dodging me and tell me i'm too obssessive and intolerant and being immature and childish blah blah blah... it depends really... make ur point once, and let it go... if a firend is doing something wrong, make ur point if they ask for it...they will realize their mistakes on their own....being pushy or annoying isn't gonna help you...
I dunno wat to tell u to change it... since i don't intend on changing my own habits of being a gud, caring friend :p
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I am sorry, it does not make you either a good employee or a good friend. Being protective usually leads to being defensive and people tend to defend the mistakes of their friends. It is neither good for your friends nor for your employer in the long run.
Usually, people get stressed out on jobs because they are not good at time management.
As how can you go about changing your behaviour, I would say it is very difficult but not impossible. The behaviours we portray in our daily lives are results of long learning process of growing up in a certain environment. The important thing is to realize what you want to improve yourself and remind yourself everyday to change toward that goal a bit at a time. Continue to observe and analyze yourself and keep on improving on your shortcomings.
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u cant
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somethings just come with experience....
sometimes people have to go through some heart aches before they leave good habbits cause this world does not deserve good....
it will sound cold but when someone will betray you then you will learn...
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join the club.
You need to learn to chill out. Works to an extent for me. But you still can't help it mostly.
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you need to take a step back and consider if it REALLY is important , there is nothing wrong about being passionate about something and sometimes its a good thing.... yo may turn out to be a better friend or employee but if you end up wasting your time and stressing out on things that dont really matter then you end up having even more problems.
save your energy for close friends and family, and at work the job that you are responsible for and will get credit for.
and as Nia says, this will come with experience.
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sara..way to go :k:
witchdr..well i disagree..i mean id like my friends/employee to sorta have my back when i make a mistake..i dont see anything wrong with from a frnd/employer perspective..
tj..well thats inspiring..
nia..thats true..it comes with experience..i just hope that it doesnt get too late..dont wanna be 60 and realzing how wrong i was..
hiccup..yea sometimes u gotta realize thats its out of ur control..cant do anything abt it..
LD..“REALLY important” is relative..for some ppl most things can fall under that relative important umbrella..
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I mostly in these cases use two phrases...
1) Who cares
2) the hell with it
it really works for me.. try it :D
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i was gonna reply to u attia but to hell with it..who cares..
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^ mayri billi mujay meow 