This reminds me of a Desi friend from uni. One of her male friends kept staring at her and she had no interest in him (or so she claimed) but that still didn’t deter her from asking him, " Why do you keep looking at me, huh? ..snort.. You like me or something?" It was something along those blunt lines. And the dude was like, “No.” A squawk-ward situation…even if she didn’t like him.
Now she may not have snorted though…but that’s just how I like to picture it in mind. More fun that way
So all of that meant nothing? It’s really common these days for girls of my generation to flirt or tease guys by calling them “Daddy”, it’s really common. I think a lot of people on here misunderstood it and thought it was weird or creepy but it’s pretty common for girls of this generation to call a guy “daddy”, at least it is over here in America. The girls that called me that were white and Hispanic and they were around my age (late teens/early 20s), so there might be a cultural difference. I only want to approach a girl if I think she’s interested cause I don’t want embarrass myself.
Uhmm…no. Don’t do that. It can potentially end up hurting the girl. Are you that desperate to get a girl that you’re willing to lie to someone else? Seriously?
And no, Akaprincess’s advice is not sound; I don’t agree with it. By asking someone…anyone for that matter…whether they “like” you makes you come across as under confident. It makes you look like you’re seeking their approval.
And just a few mins ago I typed up a better way to express interest, but then I deleted it because it would be wrong to encourage you…considering that first of all you’re so young…secondly if you don’t care about the girl’s religion and beliefs I suspect that means you’re not too bothered by your own religion (correct me if I’m wrong) and so you’re gonna have a very lackadaisical attitude about relationships…which means that most likely it’ll be a temporary thing; just to have a good time…too much risk involved in that. Explore your beliefs first, get to know yourself well first and what you stand for and what direction you want your life to go in before you decide upon getting to know a girl. And yes, if that makes me sound like an aunti…so be it…but there will come a time one day when you will look back on this…or perhaps someone else in this very same situation and you’ll think it’s fazool/pointless…even harmful.
Ummmm this is not a cultural difference. I grew up in America with non-desis (white, black, hispanic etc.). I’m not old and I actually have 2 sisters who are in their early 20’s. So no, it’s not common for girls to call guys “daddy” as a way to flirt/tease.
But then again it could be a cultural thing based on your specific neighborhood. Do you live in the ghetto/projects?
Using the same logic this desi young man I was interviewing kept playing with his facial hair and he had weird mannerism could I have assumed he is looking for a daddy? lol when will we get normal people.
If Op is referring to the word “papi,” then that actually is commonly used as a term of endearment among Hispanics …and so it’s not necessary that OP or the one using the word be dwellers of the ghetto/projects. Now, if it’s “daddy” (in English) then I’ll admit that I haven’t come across this being used that often among white girls..or in general for that matter. Daddy sounds trashy though…regardless of whether said by someone rich or poor. But the word isn’t even the main issue here…it’s the op’s intentions/motives that I think may not be in the right place and when you’re surrounded by so many adolescents thinking/doing the wrong thing along with the media promoting a carefree attitude toward various vices… it’s easier to become immune and to not question the wrongness/rightness of those actions; it happens with adults too. Op just needs to think about why exactly he wants to pursue this; what are his intentions and end-goal and are they decent or immoral? He’ll have to put aside the defensive and weak reasoning/excuse of “all the other kids are doing it” …and look deep within himself to answer these questions. And if he doesn’t want to think about these questions and if they make him uncomfortable or angry, then he needs to ask himself why that is.
Not necessarily, this Jewish friend of mine was bitterly complaining that she slept with this guy once as a casual thing and now he is saying that he loves her.
For OP’s sake I hope you’re wrong. If girls are calling OP “papi” and OP thinks that’s the same as a girl calling him “daddy”…then OP has much bigger issues to worry about than just being insecure.
It could be that daddy is being used by OP as a translation of Papi because he mentioned Hispanic girls. Or if not…then daddy carries sexual connotations and sounds trashy. But a lot of teens copy trends that are not exactly classy and the more common something becomes, the more immune one becomes and it’s eventually not seen as a bad/crude thing anymore. For many, the “trashier” it looks and sounds…the “cooler” it is…whether it’s a word, or a style of dressing, or dancing, etc etc. And so it need not be limited to the ghettos or projects…you might be right about the area of residence…but it’s not necessary.
No, I wasn’t talking about the word papi and that’s not what the main subject of my thread is, however @redvelvet I do appreciate your positivity and for not judging me, it’s better than all the garbage posted here.
i still don’t think there’s anything wrong in asking another person if they might be interested in you.. not necessarily in those same exact words, but still, get the point across.. otherwise, how else would OP (maybe date them) talk to a potential girl? but i do think that should be only done with someone he is actually interested in, and not just anybody to see what type of response he gets.
if no guy had ever done the above towards me, i’d have been single forever (I’m not the type to approach) … just an example
You should pay more attention to details and work in improving your reading comprehension. I did answer your question in post #11](http://gupshup.org/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=11). Another member gave you very direct/simple advice on post 15](http://gupshup.org/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=15) and #19](http://gupshup.org/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=19) . Yet all isn’t good enough for you and now you want to play games by “testing the water” because according to your own post (#9), you don’t deal well with rejection. And while we’re on the subject of details, I never said that men are idiots or that women are the only ones who call off marriages. For your sake, I hope you’re paying better attention to details with girls in real life because who knows what signals you’re missing or misinterpreting.
P.S. If you don’t want your time wasted and don’t like to deal with people like me, then free to skip all posts written by me and don’t waste any of your energy responding to them. I assure you it won’t hurt my feelings.
You’re pointing out the obvious. But remember, it takes a certain level of self-confidence for a guy to ask a girl out directly because there’s always the risk of rejection. Insecure guys won’t take this direct approach due to their fragile self-esteem.
Heh you’re such a sad person, constantly insulting people and labelling them stuff. Just cause a guy wasn’t a raised in a culture to ask girls out doesn’t mean he’s insecure, the only person insecure is people who think they’re entitled to have big egos cause they moderate a forum. Also blatantly asking somebody if they like them is more insecure than anything. If you want address somebody is more polite to quote them directly rather than talk indirectly and passive aggressively, but that’s who you are as a person.
