Re: how do i get myself out of this....silly me.
Nadz good to hear you are worried about God asking you about zakaat.. at least you believe in God
Re: how do i get myself out of this....silly me.
so u guys think i was deliberaty fueling her?? lol okkkkkkkkkk
There you go... Yes you were.
Now, how to get out of this situation? very simple... "tell a TRUTH"....and just confess to your husband what you just confessed above and promise to avoid these kind of situations in future. If you had a real question about ZAKAAT, you would probably go to some ALIM-E-DEEN for answers. You only wanted to burn your MIL.
Re: how do i get myself out of this....silly me.
When your Husband asked you not to question his Mother about it - then you should have respected his wish as he was trying to keep peace in the house.
The money is gone so forget about it. The rest is between you and Allah Ta'lah swt now e.g. what your intentions were when giving charity etc. Keep positive and don't regret what's happened as it is not in your control anymore and perhaps your MIL's Brother did need that money after all. Don't judge your MIL's brother or gossip you hear around about him etc. Someone could have given him that money for Qubani - who knows except Allah Ta'lah swt.
Next time give zakat to a well known charity if that helps put your mind at ease.
Re: how do i get myself out of this....silly me.
How can you get out of this? By refraining from asking mil such questions about her family and from making less than positive comments about them. People tend to be defensive about their family; it's a sensitive topic. If you visit the mamoo's family, take a small gift for them...some kind gesture. Be nice to them and speak well of them in their absence. This can help smooth things out, but don't rush to do all these things as it can also appear fake and desperate.
***If you offend someone who is overall an open-minded person and likes you, they'll eventually move on. If you've offended someone who has always had a grudge toward you and is narrow-minded, it's very difficult to improve their opinion of you and to "recover" from a careless slip of the tongue question or remark. And it is THIS point you need to remember.
If you offend only your mil it's one thing....but if you also do/say things that upset your husband, you risk losing his respect and that will hurt you more than all your MIL's hatred/drama/antics combined.
I just love your posts.