I recently wrote about the issue with my ex.. and how we were texting each other..
after everyone told me to finish it.. I immediately told him that we should stop talking.. he did not react nicely and started to make me emotional so I asked his cousin ( he was a friend, ) he handled my ex and told me that you guys shouldn’t talk ever.
This was almost a month back..
Yesterday night I received a text from him, I asked him whats wrong? he said he wanted to hear from me.. I told him that last time we both know how it turned out so don’t message.. he said he will go.. he said stuff like I missed you to the point I didn’t care about anything, that I can tell him to go away I don’t have to be a *****.. and he’d always feel this way but hes glad I can move on, and how theres no moving on from this and from the day I left till today hes just missing me and it hasn’t gotten better.. that he has no self respect left hence hes hopelessly trying to talk to me..that hes spent a decade loving me so he cant stop it. told me he has tried everything and nothing helps or makes him forget.. and in the end he told me that hes probably trying to make up for the mistakes hes done in the past by proving the love..
in the reply for all the above messages, I told him that im getting married so we are not going to talk..that everything will be fine and hes going to find a nice girl and move on in life.. anything is possible and all. it didn’t help at all..
I was glad that I stopped talking to him, what I don’t understand is.. what do I do with him if hes going to continue messaging me like this. its emotionally very painful for me as I did care a lot for him but I don’t want to be with him. I know I wont lead the life I want and soon it would all end up in fights. I also feel that hes just crazy about me because now im not achievable for him.
Please reply. Im not going to start talking to him again.. I hate myself for talking before because I love my fiancé and im really happy to be marrying him soon!
I recently wrote about the issue with my ex.. and how we were texting each other..
after everyone told me to finish it.. I immediately told him that we should stop talking.. he. id not react nicely and started to make me emotional so I asked his cousin ( he was a friend, ) he handled my ex and told me that you guys shouldn't talk ever.
This was almost a month back..
Yesterday night I received a text from him, I asked him whats wrong? he said he wanted to hear from me.. I told him that last time we both know how it turned out so don't message.. he said he will go.. he said stuff like I missed you to the point I didn't care about anything, that I can tell him to go away I don't have to be a *****.. and he'd always feel this way but hes glad I can move on, and how theres no moving on from this and from the day I left till today hes just missing me and it hasn't gotten better.. that he has no self respect left hence hes hopelessly trying to talk to me..that hes spent a decade loving me so he cant stop it. told me he has tried everything and nothing helps or makes him forget.. and in the end he told me that hes probably trying to make up for the mistakes hes done in the past by proving the love..
in the reply for all the above messages, I told him that im getting married so we are not going to talk..that everything will be fine and hes going to find a nice girl and move on in life.. anything is possible and all. it didn't help at all..
I was glad that I stopped talking to him, what I don't understand is.. what do I do with him if hes going to continue messaging me like this. its emotionally very painful for me as I did care a lot for him but I don't want to be with him. I know I wont lead the life I want and soon it would all end up in fights. I also feel that hes just crazy about me because now im not achievable for him.
Please reply. Im not going to start talking to him again.. I hate myself for talking before because I love my fiancé and im really happy to be marrying him soon!
Okayy you said your getting married right? So clearly you are trying to move on and be happy in your life. This guy is probably regretting the way he behaved because hes realised that that he cant 'have' you anymore and that you wont come running to him like before. And honestly if he cant move on then that's his problem NOT yours. You have to think about your own life and about your finace. I'm sure your fiance would feel a tad upset if he found out your ex is talking to you like this.
I know you care about him but seriously that's all in the past. I would suggest you change your number and don't give your new one to him obvs. This means you won't have to worry about him contacting you. Or you could just block him on your phone. Trust me I would take these steps if I were you because once you start chatting to him again you might start having doubts about yourself and you fiance.
Okayy you said your getting married right? So clearly you are trying to move on and be happy in your life. This guy is probably regretting the way he behaved because hes realised that that he cant 'have' you anymore and that you wont come running to him like before. And honestly if he cant move on then that's his problem NOT yours. You have to think about your own life and about your finace. I'm sure your fiance would feel a tad upset if he found out your ex is talking to you like this.
I know you care about him but seriously that's all in the past. I would suggest you change your number and don't give your new one to him obvs. This means you won't have to worry about him contacting you. Or you could just block him on your phone. Trust me I would take these steps if I were you because once you start chatting to him again you might start having doubts about yourself and you fiance.
Anyways good luck and hope you be happy. :)
Thank you so much for a nice reply..Ive been down the road of doubting my relationship with my fiancé as ive written in start that we did talk before I stopped it.
I told him that he doesn't have to prove his love or be upset for hurting me because im very happy now MashAllah in my life and I have no regrets.
I know its none of my business that he hasn't moved on but it feels ****ty that someone is sad because of you. and miserable..
but the solution is not that I be with him, because it would just be temporary, and I would be miserable.
I guess I should change my number.. cause receiving his texts is making me very depressed...
I suffer from depression, which becomes quite severe.. I hate that im responsible for someone elses sorrow..
and I get doubts that maybe ex does love me more.. and afraid if im making the right decision but I feel in my heart my decision is right..
change your fone number...erase all his msgs...if you want to stop, believe me, you CAN! do it now before it's back to where you left off...not good for you or him!
Thank you so much for a nice reply..Ive been down the road of doubting my relationship with my fiancé as ive written in start that we did talk before I stopped it.
I told him that he doesn't have to prove his love or be upset for hurting me because im very happy now MashAllah in my life and I have no regrets.
I know its none of my business that he hasn't moved on but it feels ****ty that someone is sad because of you. and miserable..
but the solution is not that I be with him, because it would just be temporary, and I would be miserable.
I guess I should change my number.. cause receiving his texts is making me very depressed...
I suffer from depression, which becomes quite severe.. I hate that im responsible for someone elses sorrow..
and I get doubts that maybe ex does love me more.. and afraid if im making the right decision but I feel in my heart my decision is right..
Aww no probz. And I understand what you mean but really its not your business or fault that the guy cant get over this. Leave him to it. The more you dwell on him the more you'll fall into the horrible pit of depression because you'll always have doubts. If hes miserable then why let him make you and your future hubby miserable too? don't let him have such a hold over you.
Juat completely cut him out of you life and focus 100% on your loving fiance. You have a bright and happy future ahead of you. :)
I was glad that I stopped talking to him, what I don't understand is.. what do I do with him if hes going to continue messaging me like this. !
Seriously Newbee....what is wrong with you? You are partly to blame if you keep responding to his texts. Each time you reply back you're just sending the message that you can't stick to your words either and that you want to keep in touch. Just don't respond. Or block him...or change your number. Would you want your fiance to respond back to his ex even if it's only to tell her to stop texting him? No, you wouldn't him to do even that...nor would you feel comfortable with him trying to give her "emotional support" in getting over him. This ex of yours spent 6 years without contacting you.....so he can do it again.
sweetheart....if the situation was reversed and he wasn't into you, you could beg and plead and he wouldnt turn back.
stop being overly emotional (i think grls make themselves miserable...you're making yourself more miserable than he is right now...he's so self involved and selfish that despite you telling him that you're engaged/moved on he keeps pursuing you and not caring about how it'll affect you...so why should you sit there and make yourself feel guilty about so called "hurting him"...everyone is responsible for their own feelings and emotions...you cant make everyone feel happy in this world. and trust me he can deal with his undying love for you on his own without you feeling responsible for it. so stop obsessing over it. and ignore his texts....another explanation could be that you're only responding to his texts to feed your own ego (maybe you enjoy him begging you..perhaps thats hard to accept)...the best help for both of you in the long run is..........just outright ignore his texts...delete them without even reading them ...see if you can do that. and changing numbers isnt alway feasible although not impossible.
I think the first thing you should have done was block his number, this way even if he does call, you have no knowledge of it, and you won't be temped to speak to him.
I honestly think that you are close to cheating on your fiance/husband. And you will definately cheat on him if you continue to speak to this guy.
If your finace ever see's his number, and gets curious would you be worried? If the answer is yes, you need to immediately block this guy's number.
He is gonna use u as a side girl. Your getting married, so he knows he can easily blackmail you in the future, and you are not going to look for a long term relationship. Obviously if he really cared he would have married u before.
Anyway delete his number, facebook, block him as well. Remove any thing with him from your life and move on, or else your gonna end up with nothing. Seriously, that bad feeling u have is a warning sign...
Dont reply to him or his friends, the more you reply the more he will try.
Be prepared, he will continue to try to keep in touch with you, until he sees there is no use in trying. The more u respond and show u care, the more fuel ur throwing into the fire.
Believe me if you give a guy the cold shoulder he'll leave you unless he's psychotic. To me your problem is a non issue. Maybe you need to be honest with yourself, to me it sounds like you have your fiancé and then still enjoy the desire your ex has for you. That's just wrong. Narrate your whole essay to your fiancé and he'll help you with your dilemma!
Honestly, this is a no brainer! Why would you even CONSIDER ruining your marriage to your fiancé by responding to your ex? Who cares what he says and does, he should be out of your life now. How would you feel if your fiancé was responding to his ex? Do you really think it's fair of you to do that? As for not being able to change your number, that might be the case but even so you can quite easily block him. Not only that but your marriage and future should be of utmost importance here and if that means changing your number so be it.
^ yeah he will stop one day .... the thing is she has moved on as she has a fiance but he hasn't yet ... it will take a lot of time for him .... he must be emotionally down these days & will make every possible attempt to get her back .... thats natural human behaviour ....
