Mom has some far-cousins who come to our house every 2 months or so for dinner. These cousins seem to hate me for some reason.
Ok so few months ago one of the cousins come over. My mom was explaining how I received a good rishta and stuff. The aunty goes “.. shuker karo tumhe accept kerliya.. werna Aj kal ke larke to Aishwarya Rai chaahte he. Unke standards high hote he looks department me” a bit of description of myself - I have been told by lots of people that I am beautiful etc so I would say - to the least, I am above average looking. So, I don’t understand why she would say that? I am not unattractive or ugly or anything that someone wouldn’t wanna give me a chance?
Also Mom and I had them on Facebook for past 10 years .. and up til now they never wished us Happy birthday, although they appear to wish every single person on Facebook. And also, everytime my sister posts a comment on her daughter’s profile, her daughter deletes it off.
I can’t stand these type of two faced people. I don’t know how to actually deal with them properly?
-delete them from your Facebook
-limit your interaction with them
-go visit your friend the day they visit your mom
-tell your mom how you feel about them and tell to invite them when you aren't home
-stop lurking on their Facebook. don't read what's on their wall.
Mom has some far-cousins who come to our house every 2 months or so for dinner. These cousins seem to hate me for some reason.
Ok so few months ago one of the cousins come over. My mom was explaining how I received a good rishta and stuff. The aunty goes ".. shuker karo tumhe accept kerliya.. werna Aj kal ke larke to Aishwarya Rai chaahte he. Unke standards high hote he looks department me" a bit of description of myself - I have been told by lots of people that I am beautiful etc so I would say - to the least, I am above average looking. So, I don't understand why she would say that? I am not unattractive or ugly or anything that someone wouldn't wanna give me a chance?
Also Mom and I had them on Facebook for past 10 years .. and up til now they never wished us Happy birthday, although they appear to wish every single person on Facebook. And also, everytime my sister posts a comment on her daughter's profile, her daughter deletes it off.
I can't stand these type of two faced people. I don't know how to actually deal with them properly?
what the need to deal with them. jealous people comment like this.... just ignore them. focus on the good things of your life. you got a good rishtaa. be happy .simple. focus on that. and and best wishes for your upcoming life.... :)
aesa log boht milengay apko... unho na to nae badalna to ap ignore karo.:D
If you can't delete on fb then at least put them on limited profile and stop liking and commenting on their stuff. Hell make your entire page and wall unavailable for them. Information is power so don't give it to them. Verbally and online both. They don't need to know about rishtas or whatever is happening you family. Just put a smile on your face and let them do the talking.
Enjoy her burning in fire of jealousy. Khush raho aunty k kharchey pe
PS: Tell your mom that you do not like how she treats you and that you should not be forced to interact with her. PLan a night out with your friends when she is coming for dinner. TUm apna fun karoo, un ko apna fun kerney do
1) delete her from facebook. it's liberating and awesome going through and getting rid of people that you don't care for in real life. If you dislike them, why expect them to talk to you even on your birthday.
2) Tell your mom how you feel. Surely, she must've noticed these rude comments too?
3) When they want to come over, tell them you're busy.
Distance yourself from them ...including online social networks. Also, your mom shouldn't be sharing things like rishtas with people even she doesn't trust.
Nobody should keep such negative people in their life!
What she said might be reflective of how shallow the society is and indeed what is happening in the society however it wasn't her place to make such a comment esp. the way she did and considering the lack of comfort you both share.
