uh but thats not the reason.. o.Othe reason she hasn't been able to skype is because she's been busy with school and work. How hard is that to understand? you could talk to your in laws once a week or a month just make sure you make the time to do it and live up to that promise.
I don't see why you would think you're at fault solely because you are being responsible, studying and working. Your father in law should respect that you are trying to make something of your life and even though that means you are much busier than before that you can't talk on skype or email that doesn't mean that you are trying to avoid or neglect him.
I see you want to compromise but really theres nothing much you can do when you're busy with school, work and maintaining your household. You need time for yourself and as I said before if you really love talking to your in laws you should set a date aside to call them or talk to them even once a month should be more than enough...
It is tough to balance school and living on your own and all that...but I guess there are some things you just have to do. Like learning how to balance your relationships...to me, the amount of times I Skype/call don't really show how much I care. I show it through the way I act when he's here, like the importance I give him when I do talk to him is immense. He literally is like my dad. But to him - I need to take the initiative, be the first one to call or come to the laptop without being specifically called.
Thanks for everyone's advice though, really appreciate it. =]
You got it spot-on. That's exactly how he feels - that unless he has to say something, I really don't care about him being there....which is not the case at all.
You are a great DIL - I see only happy times ahead! God Bless!
If you don't like the venue of skype, use another venue: write him a letter. Send emails. Doesn't take that long. He really likes you and you really like him, so just include him in, that's all. Tell him what's going on in your life without him having to pry it out of you.
I've had friendships where I felt like I'm the only one initiating contact or pursuing the friendship and after awhile you think, well, crap, they need to invest some effort here, too, otherwise, it's not balanced.
Of course, the balance of things between FIL and DIL is not necessarily an equal thing. I think he just wants to not be the one always initiating. That's not hard to understand. And I think as a general rule, fathers expect their children to make the contact. Just the male ego. Better than an apology is a change of behaviour. Just start making that little effort. He cares about you: you are very lucky.
Anyway, I did end up calling him and apologizing. Reassured him that he's a really important figure in my life, and I feel like he's just to me as my dad is. It's hard to have to say those things - I kinda choked up a bit when saying sorry lol. =/ But it was worth it. He just sounded happier.
Awesome Punk!..for a minute your fil sounded like my dad. My dad cares about my SIL like his own daughter. And gives her lecture and advises on the skype and my sil respects my dad a lot. Sometimes she would complaint about my brother.and my brother hears lecture at the end of the day. I meant to say..you have an awesome relationship with ya're FIL..cherish it.
Anyway, I did end up calling him and apologizing. Reassured him that he's a really important figure in my life, and I feel like he's just to me as my dad is. It's hard to have to say those things - I kinda choked up a bit when saying sorry lol. =/ But it was worth it. He just sounded happier.
Anyway, I did end up calling him and apologizing. Reassured him that he's a really important figure in my life, and I feel like he's just to me as my dad is. It's hard to have to say those things - I kinda choked up a bit when saying sorry lol. =/ But it was worth it. He just sounded happier.
Well, good for you, there is a lesson in that for all of us. ;)