Re: How did your rishta come about?
This food thing is too much. Boy's family ends up with a feast either way, while girl's slaves a way not knowing if the effort was worth it in the end.
My solution, do NOT prepare a feast. Lay on some cheese n crackers with a drink. The true test of a relationship is if the boy says's yes after that. Girl's, a boy who appreciates cheese n crackers is a boy worth hanging onto. All the others can go jump.