Salam
Im about 6 weeks along and my first baby is almost 8months. This pregnancy was ttally unplanned. My daughter is becoming really naughty now as u can imagine at that age if u have children!
Im feeling nauseaous and so tired and lazy all the tome how did u cope?
At the moment im in pak so in laws r helpin alot with her soon im
Going back to uk mum lot will be there but u know ur baby is ur responsibilty and want to do all u can for them
Please share ur stories of how u coped etc
Re: How did you cope with small gap between first 2 children
The difference between my 2 daughters is about 1 year. Same thing happened to us where it was totally unplanned but it happened. You husband will have to pitch in everything and not only work at his job but also work with you to help you with everything. I was living in St. Louis at the time and there wasnt any family near us. Inshallah it will be all worth it. Turns out having the 2 daughters a year apart was the best thing to happen to our family.
Re: How did you cope with small gap between first 2 children
Thanks inshallah will be ok
Anyone else care to share their experiences
Re: How did you cope with small gap between first 2 children
my babies arent that close in age.. well not like yours.. eldest was 2.5 when the second one came along..
some pointers i would give are
start taking multi vits and whatever else have you.. get your blood level checked.. full works.. if you are anameic.. start yourself on iron pills immediately..
one thing that i had to REALLY REALLY work on was the fact that the older kid is STILL a baby and just cuz you are having a baby close in age doesnt make the older one grow up any faster than it should.. so pls treat it like you would an only child... dont ask it to grow up overnight.
the new baby wont require that much time.. it eats and sleeps.. so the primary focus should still be your oldest child... if the family is there to help out.. get them to do the bathing , changing etc for the baby.. if formula fed.. they can do that too.. focus all your energy on the older kid cuz it cant undderstand the changes its been pushed to handle overnight... it understands more than the newborn...
its ultra hard and tiring.. being a new mom with a toddler in tow.. but whatever god throws your way.. is only cuz HE knows you can handle it .. inshallah :)
lots of sleepless nights are ahead of you.. one baby gets sick the other one will too.. etc etc... try to get a routine down ASAP.. with the eldest.. start now.... it will help when the baby comes...
all the best :)
Re: How did you cope with small gap between first 2 children
I do not know if you are anemic or something but if everything else is fine , add excercise to your routine. That will freshen you up and will bring in more energy. I used to walk and do little bit of excercise plus my son had me on my toes all the time. Do not tire yourself though.
First trimester is tough for some women, hopefully by second trimester and by the time you are back in UK, you will start feeling better.
Also if you already dont have one, once you get back to UK, get your 8 month old into a routine.
My first one is 2.5 years older than the 2nd one but when I was pregnant, my husband helped a lot with my son. For instance he started putting son to bed so that once the baby is here, my son was used to being put to sleep by daddy and does not wait for me. Things like that like feeding etc.
Also for me personally third trimester was the toughest. I had gained more weight than I did the first time around and my toddler was more active which required me to be more active too. It was hard sometimes as I used to eat more and throw up more food in my last month and was short of breath more.
If you need to get anything done, like shopping or getting room ready, do it in your 2nd trimester.
Re: How did you cope with small gap between first 2 children
bes tthing ever. at first i wanted a boy to be my 2nd child as i already had a girl. but im glad it ws another girl 2 girls, they are like best friends. my youngest is 8 months and my eldest is 2, and they are so close already. my eldest takes care of her younger sister, the other day some little boys from next door, around 3 yrs old, came over and started lightly just hitting my youngest, and my eldest came running in and smacked them one hard and told them to go away and leave her sister alone! , shes a little bodyguard. and when we ask my eldest child baby kiski hai?, ( baby -my youngest? ) she says meri hai.....
trsutme, its the best thing ever. im glad i have 2 girls. plus both wearing same colours-too cute.
mashallah x
Re: How did you cope with small gap between first 2 children
Well as much as hard it looks to be rearing two kids or more at the same time, some say it rather gets easier as you are already into it and you just go with the flow. But ofcourse its just what people say. The points that Khawateen made are for sure worth considering.
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The gap between my kids will be 2.5 yrs. The thing I'm most worried about is my older one being jealous :( She's so used to getting all my attention...
Re: How did you cope with small gap between first 2 children
wendy... just shower her with all the attention.. the baby wont care if it doesnt get any cuz it isnt aware of anything... the older kid needs for you to further babying them cuz thats what they are still.. babies :)
my son didnt care when he got his baby sister.. the jealousy started to come out recently when the sis started to get more active.. the son started to act out... so now i make sure to have a few hours everyday where the 2nd kid is not in sight (husband takes her out or elsewhere) and the older kid gets my undivided attention.. its worked very well.. cuz before that he was starting to hit his sis etc... or if she was crawling he would start to do that too.. thinking mommy will like that that since its so cute when baby sis does it...
key is.. the older kid needs both its parents attention when the 2nd baby comes.. but more its mother's cuz tahts who they see being occupied with the baby 24/7.
hope that helps :)