so how did u learn to Love and respect yourself…
or you always knew that ur the best thing that cud ever happen to this universe.. 
before jumping into a relationship its very important to be at calm with your own self…and one of the reasons of breakups,divorce is because either or the spouse suffers from low self esteem,self doubt and end up with a mess..
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I know one thing. There is no other "me" in the world. There are guys who are better than me and there are guys who are worst than me. Similerly, there are girls better than my partner and worst than my partner. Couples remain happy when they want no more, no less but just you.
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yes i agree to that...
but sometimes therz an inner conflict to be better than u already are...coz inside u knw ur a better person than the world knws u and u need to bring that out...
i feel this conflict can take u down at many many things in life
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Hmm
I suffer from low self esteem but its hidden and nobody would be able to tell.
I think most people have something about them that they would like to be changed or feel lets them down.
In the end I learnt to just stop thinking bout stuff and go with the flow.
Loving and respecting yourself has nothing to do with thinking that ur the best thing that cud ever happen to this universe
former is a result of good self esteem, later is nothing but self centeredness.
so how did u learn to Love and respect yourself...
Parents taught me..
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Stop comparing yourself with others, you will learn by yourself how to respect and Love yourself.
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slam guys this is my first ever post on this forum. so please forgive me if i do not speak according to rules here. but surely i will speak according to rules of humanity and that most important for me.
@topic.
i think first of all we must learn the acceptance for ourself. what i am. and then we must accept ourself with whatever we are. and what i am no body can be. and what others are i cant be like them. so acceptance is most important. accept yourself with all of your black and whites. and this self acceptance and self understanding will give you self confidence and you will start accepting others with their black and whites. so for me acceptance is the basic key in every relation. accept your partner with all of his/her posetive and negetives. and then try to explore the posetive beauty of him/her. partner always play a big role to give self confidence to you. so you must care your partner and tell them the art of self acceptance and self confidence.
regards
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i am on the same page with TLK. Most people are told by their parents to love and respect themselves, but I think we learn mostly by our personal experiences (ex: friendships, relationships, various events that occur in life). everyone has fears about themselves but the key is not to let those fears eat at you...as i am typing this fears about myself are flashing through my mind but then again who is perfect? no one!
love yourself by taking care of your self and being a better person. Respect yourself by setting up high morals, values and standard for yourself. Dont let others take advantage of you of or put you down. Do what you like do what makes you happy dont just jump on the bandwagon.
If you think you are the best thing thats happened to the planet then you prevent yourself from constructive criticism. No one likes a individual who is full of themselves or has a ego as big as the universe.
*Once upon a time, a man was walking along with his son and his donkey. His suit cases were loaded onto the donkey. He entered a village, where people seemed disgusted by the fact that he had loaded all his stuff onto the donkey. "Poor animal", they said.
The man took the suit cases off the donkey and held them himself and walked along. He entered another village and people seemed shocked by the fact that the old man was holding the heavy luggage himself whereas the son was walking along with empty hands. "That's terrible! Poor old man", they said.
The man handed the luggage to his son and walked along. Upon entering another village, people seemed horrified by the fact that his poor lil son was holding the luggage when he could have easily placed it on the donkey or held it himself. They further accused him of showing off with his wealth (the donkey!).
The man then decided that as long as he and Allah swt are happy with what he's doing, he wouldn't listen to what people say any more. He sat his son on the donkey, held the luggage himself and walked along. They reached home after a few days. The man was exhausted but he was happy that his son was doing well. He lied down on the bed and asked his wife for some water. His wife brought him some water, only to find out that he was no more. *
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Moral of the story:** Don't waste ur life listening to the crap that people say and don't take it to heart. People don't care. So don't spend ur life trying to please people. You're here to please Allah swt. And as long as thats being done, your level of self-respect will boost up automatically.
And that's where I stand.
Everyone in this world is constantly trying to prove themselves to be better than others... its like a cold war... unfortunately even some close relatives will also look down on u for ur achievements... no one appreciates u better than ur own family and friends do... Long story short, I have learned to live my life in a way that would not only please me and my parents but most importantly, Allah swt. And thats where the self-satisfaction comes from in my case. ***
Duniya de vich rakh faqeera aisa bain khalon
Kol hovain tey hassan loki na hovain tey ron***
^ My nana abu used to say this a lot... This is what strive to be with people around me... but I also remember that story above... and I say, if nothing can make people happy, ... why bother?