Just based on the fact that they are in fewer numbers than sunnis and that they have more opportunities to mix with sunnis at place like work and school.
Compare it to Pakistanis marrying non-Pakistanis here in the West. They are around Westerners their entire life, at school, at work, etc, so it’s natural that some people feel more close to them.
This is not a Sunni vs everyone else topic, and this is about relationships, that’s why it’s in L&R.
Re: How common is it for non Sunnis to marry outside of their sect?
its more common then we think i guess.
My dad says that it's actually more common in India than it's in Pakistan for sunni and non-sunni families to come together in marriages without having any grudge, concern or issue.
IMHO, I don't see a major deal in it but I've heard of people touching their ears when and if they hear about such marriages.
As for your question of it being common or not, I actually don't think many Pakistani Sunni parents would willingly and happily get their kids married into non-sunni families or vice verca.
Re: How common is it for non Sunnis to marry outside of their sect?
lol, sect? most people i know wouldnt marry outside their immediate families let alone a whole big sect!
My dad says that it's actually more common in India than it's in Pakistan for sunni and non-sunni families to come together in marriages without having any grudge, concern or issue.**
IMHO, I don't see a major deal in it but I've heard of people touching their ears when and if they hear about such marriages. ** As for your question of it being common or not, I actually don't think many Pakistani Sunni parents would willingly and happily get their kids married into non-sunni families or vice verca.
I never understood that, what is the significance of it? touching the ears?
maybe i shd start this in the religion forum.
Re: How common is it for non Sunnis to marry outside of their sect?
Honestly, it should be avoided... Someone from our family married a Shia guy and theres been many problems. How the kids are brought up and all; I mean even in Ramazan they cant break the fast at the same time... Obviously, if its an arranged marriage, the couple has a choice and they should marry someone from their own sect. With that said, it does happen in Pakistan but its pretty rare, and yes people frown upon it in the society. Most of us are very tolerant when it comes to respecting other people's beliefs, but if you marry someone who has the views that you disagree with, or have some sort of an inner animosity with, you are bound to open a can of worms sometime later. Remember, you have a choice, so think wisely.
Re: How common is it for non Sunnis to marry outside of their sect?
its getting more common thesedays and believe me it aint a bad thingy !
Re: How common is it for non Sunnis to marry outside of their sect?
Its not common and personally I wouldn't recommend. Both sects have their own beliefs and it would be pretty hard to compromise on some of them no matter how much you love him/her.
So don't they (non Sunnis) have trouble finding rishtas for their kids in the West? They may have closer ties with their community, but are in smaller numbers.
Is it common for them to marry non-Pakistanis from within their sect? For example, is it common for Pakistani shias to marry Iranian shias?
Re: How common is it for non Sunnis to marry outside of their sect?
I would think it would lead to problems raising kids and even celebrating holidays.
However, if both parties are aware of their differences and can compromise here and there, I dont see why it cant work.
Re: How common is it for non Sunnis to marry outside of their sect?
bizzarely enough.. i think my parents would have accepted a non pakistani muslim, as opposed to a non sunni muslim! Wierd.
Re: How common is it for non Sunnis to marry outside of their sect?
marrying within the faith is recommended but not the rule coz marrying outside will cause stress in the marriage when raising kids especiallly when the couple get older and become more religious and hence less tolerable.