(there are topics on women getting raped in other forums - based on that)
...i never understood guys with intention to rape. i mean don't you need to know the person to even have those type of intentions? How can these guys just do it with complete strangers? total yuck. As a woman I simply cannot understand their logic - not even for one single bit.
I'm not trying to justify rape in any way, Masti. It's a horrendous crime. And it's not like everything ends when the act of rape itself comes to an end. The victim has to deal with the psychological and emotional scars and trauma for years afterward. This not only impacts the victim but the relationships formed with other people.
As far as how one can have sex with a complete stranger.................well, doesn't it happen all the time???????? You hear of complete strangers who meet at clubs and have known each other for only half an hour.....possibly less.......and then have a one night stand. They're not friends........they're mere acquaintances.......like strangers. It happens often. But at least in this scenario.......mutual consent for sex is involved.
Why do some men rape? Well............if it does not involve a mind clouded by alcohol or drugs........................then the individual is psyhcologically disturbed. Perhaps he has a fear.........or hatred for women. Maybe his upbrining was dysfunctional.........and included unhealthy relationships or attitudes toward female figures in his life (mother, sister, aunts, etc). Maybe his hatred or fear of women......manifests itself in a desire to control or harm what they're so afraid of.
Again, I'm not trying to justify rape. And I don't think there are sufficient enough words to explain how despicable of an act it is. This may sound odd......but simply murdering someone (although it a gunnah)........in some ways is better than rape. Because a rape victim is stripped of their dignity....violated..........and they relive that trauma over and over.......it's like mentally dying many deaths. For those victims who have overcome the trauma........and who have become stronger from the experience.......it's quite a feat.