Give some examples! Backhanded remarks and actions are sometimes hard to decipher. 
Actually its a good question and I was thinking earlier on similar line not the same though.
So basically I'm myself very dumb in comprehending other's "between the lines" remarks or their gestures or sarcastic tone etc. I take everything to the "face value". To answer the question yes I would understand direct insults but thats it. Thats why I sometimes have to remind people to have direct communicado rather than sending stupid signals lol.
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It is feeling.
This thread reminds me of this song “should I stay or should I go” from stranger things. I always expect the explicit otherwise cant comprehend lol
Pay attention to the way people say things to you. A sardonic/sarcastic tone is a distinct one.
One of the biggest indicators for me is when I'm put on ignore on someone I have been close with for no reason. It's like I'm not even worth an explanation as to why they are acting that way. and the "Im busy" line can only take you so far before you realize its just an excuse. . that is a huge slap to my face, and I have started to no longer entertain such people who do that. I used to stay quiet when it would happen (this goes for both guy interests, and friends).. now, I give them a piece of my mind, cuz, WTF
Don't allow people to dictate how you feel, if they can make you feel bad than that gives them power over you.
Vat iz insult?
Banday ke pas paisa hona chahye. Izzat aani jani shay hai
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So when a kutta barks do we feel insulted? There are some people I treat as miserable rabid creatures and they think they are insulting me and I wish they find happiness in their worthless existence
Are they typically nice to you?
If you know them, their usual attitude towards you in general
If you don't know them, compare how they behave around you vs. others
Body language
Look closely at the person in the first 5 seconds after they have said something. Their facial expressions during the first few seconds are the truest reflection of what's going on in their head. After 5 seconds, people fake/cover that expression. If they cover it up and fake a smile or something, then you know. ; )
You all owe me letters of recommendation for a graduate psychology program.
Or a certificate that screams "I'm just so very full of myself"
Already have one but if you frame it nice enough, I'll take another one. ; )
Now this, ladies and gentlemen, is a perfect example of what we're discussing here. Allow me to demonstrate:
Mr. Exodus II underhandedly labelled me as a pomp.
Now, based on the criteria I provided:
- If you know them, check their attitude towards you in general
- If you don't know them, compare how they behave around you vs. others
I know him and this is him being his usual self, so very critical of me. His body language based on clicking the Logout button after saying this, ensures he meant what he said. So yes, I conclude that an insulting attempt has been made.
In my defense, I googled pomp for the unaware that is me
Critical? yes
Demeaning or degrading? no
I logged out only because I had a chore needing my attendance. Came back like within the next hour
I believe this is in pure alignment to the fact that great literature works get a lot of criticism. 
Or being full of yourself 
Forgot to add: your intuition. If you feel like someone just gave you negative energy then they probably have.
Following the white-man rituals/literature, yet straight-up fail at being Pakistani themselves
What truly is upsetting is to see them having seizures when asked to compete in Urdu