ok so my question is how can you get someone to open up … a person who is always thinking and doesnt talk to anyone about what they feel or think, or has a hard time opening up…but when you ask them they simply say “stuff here and there” and “yea i dont usually open up to people, i never discuss things, i dont know why, i am just like that” so without being too anoying how can you get them to open up and talk about whats on their mind and what there alwasuy thinkng about all the time… i know most of you will say why be soo annoying but what if you care for the person and cant see them going thru whatever is bothering them but cant offer help, because they just dont know how to open up. and anyways opening up always helps a person feel better and a lot lighter as well.
ok..seriously........ its not possible to just change someone's personality like that....
all you can do is...try to figure out...from interaction with the specific person...how u might achieve that...............it Totally varies from person to person.........
Try but don't be pushy. That usually shuts people off even more.
The key is time here. People who don't open up usually have a hard time relying on other for various reasons. In due time, once they feel they can rely on you...it'll happen.
But this only happens when they're actually ready.
yea i feel like pushing too much would drive the person away but the person is constantly thinking...lord knows about what, but he just cannot share no matter how much u ask or offer your support.
even though its too soon but i guess yea time would be the key
who has time for time..lol
A sensitive person usually doesn't open up or share his thoughts with those people who according to him don't place themselves in his position when considering his thoughts about anything. If you can make them feel that you are trying your level best to look at things from their perspective in order to understand them, they would start feeling comfortable in sharing their views with you. They just wish their views to be respected and not ridiculed even if one disagrees with them. Being sensitive they also respect views of other people and don't take them lightly.
At times we unintentionally make sarcastic comments or criticize their views (in a light jolly mood) without realizing that it hurts their sensitive nature, so they prefer to remain quiet most of the time in front of those who they feel might (unintentionally) disrespect their views or take them lightly.
ashykh i have been thinking how to respond to your post. it depends on who you are talking about? your husband? bf? dad? or just some friend?
universal suggestion would be to let them know you are there for them perhaps always tell them you may be able to help tell them it will relieve weight. remember these kind of people if dont open up give alot of grief to themselves and the people around them. you have to consider their mentality (is he strong minded, or weak) what is your role in their life and so forth. approach as a support and not be clingy.
these are just few of my thoughts but
all in all it would be a slow and patience process
ok so my question is how can you get someone to open up .... a person who is always thinking and doesnt talk to anyone about what they feel or think, or has a hard time opening up...but when you ask them they simply say "stuff here and there" and "yea i dont usually open up to people, i never discuss things, i dont know why, i am just like that" so without being too anoying how can you get them to open up and talk about whats on their mind and what there alwasuy thinkng about all the time... i know most of you will say why be soo annoying but what if you care for the person and cant see them going thru whatever is bothering them but cant offer help, because they just dont know how to open up. and anyways opening up always helps a person feel better and a lot lighter as well.
Rather than getting them to open up, which I think would be very difficult to achieve, one needs to train themselves to understand their silences and body language.
sometimes people prefer not to open up, there's nothing wrong with that. you don't need to be that one person who has gotten 'through' to them. people have different ways of showing appreciation and trust. also, sharing whats on your mind doesnt necessarily make one feel lighter.
ugh, i cant stand such people some times. I think we all need to open up once in a while if we want the other person to better understand us...now it doesnt mean have a big mouth alll the time, but it doesnt hurt to speak up your mind from time to time to people you love and care about. It just makes other people;s lives a bit easier, they feel like they are a part of your life, and they dont feel suffocated around you.
Let them know subtely that you are there for them and they can confide in you and tell you whatever is on their mind whenever they want to. That they don't have to and you won't be pushy with them but if they need to share anything, you are there. If they want to open up they wll, if they don't maybe he/she just isn't comfortable doing so.
