how can i???

Lifestyle Relationships
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how can i manage relations ???

when relatives r so selfish & typical???

**can i leave them??? **

what i do???

give me advice…

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Dont look down at them as selfish. You are not one and that should matter. Deal normally with them, just dont lower your self esteem in that course. You should be fine.

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What do you mean by typical??

You have to allow yourself to be detached and not get affected by their words and actions. As soon as you do that, you will find that they no longer have power over you.

Stay positive and don't lets others get you down!

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Just be the best person that you can be. No need to lower yourself to their level. Yes, they may be nasty and selfish people, but you know the best way to make them burn? Be as sweet as you can be! (without allowing them to walk all over you of course)

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We all can be selifsh at times. And we all display typical traits that are a part of human nautre.

1) If you know that these relatives cannot be depended upon when you ask THEM of a favor, then just stop asking them. Don't rely upon them. Be more dependent upon yourself and rely on others who can be trusted and counted on.

2) If you do decide to help them....do it from the goodness of your heart. Be the bigger person, you'll get your reward from Allah....so don't expect the reward from them.

3) If they're bugging you for help or favors...........make excuses. Pretend you forgot about it. Act clueless. Or if they hint that they want something from you....pretend like you didn't hear them and change the subject. Keep pretending this way and they'll soon think that they can't count on you for anything....and may stop bugging you.

4) If they get under your skin that much, maintain a distance from them. If they call...keep the conversation short. If they visit....limit your time with them. Keep yourself occupied so that you're not interacting much with them. IF you make yourself available to someone, they think that you don't mind putting up with their behavior. If you show that you're not going to be around.....it may curb them.

5) Realize that you can't change them and the only thing you can do is change your reaction to them....or be a bit clever/sneaky.....so you have more peace in your life.

6) Rather than dwell on annoying relatives.....concentrate on the more positive people in your life. Hopefully you don't live with them or see them on a regular basis.

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u can certainly not manage any relationship by being this bold **and **red. Tone it down girl

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Re: how can i???

Going by your nick, they just might be reacting to your poetry by being selfish and typical.

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It is very generic question. You did not define 'selfish' and 'typical'.

So the advice is generic.

You 'can' leave them.

P.S. 'Should' you leave them, is another question.

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are your relatives asking the same question?

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Re: how can i???

thankx for advice ..........

decent 6chora i think this matter is more serious & sensitive more than joke for me...........

i m stucking with this horrible situation....

hope u ppl guide me more with ur kind advice...