Re: How can I win my saasu maas heart?
Im just going to say a few things here because I come from a family of four girls and BELIEVE ME my mother has heard a few comments from her inlaws about it. But then the inlaws heard it from my father too.
Do you love your children? Would you do anything in the world for them?
Face this. If not for yourself, for them. Children are Allah mian ki nemat. They are masoom and dont know what this whole ordeal is about. But what if they grow up and and at some point start to feel this hostility just because they are female? What if your older daughter starts to think less of herself not just because she has epilepsy but also because she is a woman? What will you do then? How will remedy this? Allah na kare this ever happens but if you dont face this, it might. You are a woman and feel like you are being blamed for being a woman...do you want that for your babies that havent even celebrated their 3rd birthdays?
My response to this would be to stay away from this woman and even more important: keep your children away from her. If she makes comments, ignore and walk away. Dont respond, cry or get sad about it. Dont let your girls here this language and where is your husband in all of this? What does he have to say? He should be protecting his girls, not letting his family make a mockery out of his very own children.
Furthermore, these rumors are simple to kill. Tell people that your MIL has lost it and will be transported to a nursing home soon. If you hear things, take care of them on the spot. Let whoever it is know that your child suffers from epilepsy (may Allah swt grant her good health, Ameen) and your MIL suffers from mental imbalance. Say it with a straight face and they will buy it.
I know this may sound mean to people but I get SOOOOOOOOOOOOO angry when grown people victimize small, innocent children because of their own jahilana views. There is NO mercy in my court for this type of behavior.