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I think now would be an appropriate time to ask this question: Does Fraudz thread his eyebrows?
I couldn’t help but notice how perfectly shaped they are while photoshopping his face onto the Geico caveman.
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waisay in all seriousness guys, I post my positive experiences here, and even those that are negative I try to find the silver lining in the clouds sometimes it is possible sometimes it is not possible.
I have posted about my failures here, big failures. some may recall the fact that in dec 2005 I left my old company because even though the product we launched was getting rave reviews, we did not get the right support from the company and my boss left. I could have written about it in a dejected manner that 2 years of backbreaking work went for nothing, I posted it as a positive that I recognized that pouring myself in it any more would not give any returns.. yet that sense of loss of leaving something you built from scrath and seeing it just wither is always there.
I have posted about my failure to convince one doctor to give my wife the treatment that could have saved my twins Danyal and Amber. to me the biggest failure in my life. to this day I feel guilty about taking that trip, because maybe just maybe had we been in chicago when it happened we would have had better care...but I can not sit and harp on it day in day out because that will drive me crazy.
I have posted about my incorrect approach to handle depression by burying myself into work in 2004 and 2005.
life is not perfect, no body is perfect, no body has a perfect life.
Either you live with the cards you have been dealt and be thankful for who you are and what you have and what you have done, or you harp on the negatives, focus on the negatives and become a bitter miserable person.
we all have negative events in our life, interviews for which we did not get offers, schools we could not get into, opportunities we never had.... or we can focus on what we do have, what we did become and what we have accomplished.
Its not new, as early as undergrad days I have been called a happy go lucky guy. Even at my new role my colleagues sometimes joke about the perpetual sunshine I seem to be living in.
I just deal with me demons in the dark, I deal with them alone, and then I push them back into the dark depths from where they haunt me, and face a new day with a smile on my face, and enternal sunshine around me.
I can post day in day out about how to this day everyday I miss danyal and amber..how as we donate the things we had bought for them it hurts like hell.. or I can focus on the love that I have for aydin and amber and what they mean to me and how much fun i have with them.
for those who have read my journal, teh songs I post in there sometimes speak for my frame of mind...when i post songs like "halo' by depeche mode its because they deal with my guilt, my sorrow, my pain better than I can state it.."you wear guilt liek shackles on yiour feet, like a halo in reverse" .. to songs that talk about my attempts to pull myself out of depression, songs like return of the mack, im' gonna knock you out, and back in the highlife...and songs when i am back in control...walking on sunshine, etc etc.
Alhumdulillah, I am thankful to god for my family. my health, for making me who I am, and for giving me teh strength to deal with the tests that have come my way.
life is short, make the most of it, there will be bumps on the way, some big, some small..but teh fact that you are on the road to begin with, and you have a future should be enough to thank the creator, and look at the scenere and teh road ahead rather than focusing on better cars on the road, cars ahead of you, or looking in your rear view mirror atthe potholes you have already hit or dodged.
I think I have used all the cliches in this post so I will end it by telling you two most important things I learnt in college
1) life is not fair, it will not be fair, you can not make it fair, you have to do the best you can knowing that it is unfair
2) college is a great place to learn and to get rid of your baggage, in real life there will be many people richer than you, better looking than you, more accomplished than you, smarter than you, but.. they will not be YOU. know who you are, be proud of who you are, be happy with who you are.
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yet again..another disappointment. how dare you phatti, how dare you..
do you really think i would thread my own eyebrows??? sheesh whats next you will accuse me of sewing my own clothes. how…neandrathal do you think I am.
seriously though, the same genes that gave me a honker for a nose, gave me those eyebrows. u win some u lose some.
I will post some pics some day from my childhood days to prove that. although it will prove one of 2 things, you get to decide
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they are natyrally shaped that way
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I was a metrosexual guy way back even when i was 5
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^^ did u just had yr lunch ?? sounds like a major calorie outburst
( jokes apart , i know every failure is a killer , it shatters u while u're faceing it but also gives u enough courage to deal with an upcoming failure or defeat , for me it's an essence of a successful life )
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enters the thred
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Fraudia - LOL hahahah okay I will go with the second one. 
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^^ did u just had yr lunch ?? sounds like a major calorie outburst
( jokes apart , i know every failure is a killer , it shatters u while u're faceing it but also gives u enough courage to deal with an upcoming failure or defeat , for me it's an essence of a successful life )
no man...karrak chai...and zeeray walay biscuit :)
PS: dont talk about outbursts or bursts..i had chilli for lunch :D
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**How can I be like Fraudz ?
**First of all you’ll need a degree from University-Madrassah of Kabul in Theology. After that an internship with Pir Dr. Thurkuddin Shah. Only then you can be inducted in Chicagowee Sufi Order and have the power to issue taweez and accept nazrana.
Good luck
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plus you have to buy a faal wala totaa.
and have some steady supply of bhang and charas
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plus you have to buy a faal wala totaa. and have some steady supply of bhang and charas
yep, the steady supply of bhang, hash, charas will come from your old contacts in Kabul. This is a given.
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Perfect Guidelines must be followed promptly:D
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Fraudia Sir, Your above post makes a lot of sense (like always, if I might add).
I hope you did not take my first post personally (though I am not sure how else you could have taken it !). As I said before, I have been lurking around GS for a long time and from reading your posts I have often wondered how meticulous you appear to be in different life situations. Though I would admit, I might have stepped over the line in trying to spice up my post a little bit.
I am an eternal pessimist myself (as the *Cricketnama *guys would know) and a nihilist in many ways - I marvel at people like yourself who seem to maintain such consistently upbeat and positive outlook towards life. Your travails with regards to the birth of your twins is well-documented here. Life does throw some curve balls at times, and I am glad you took it in your stride.
Your following lines pretty much sums it all :
Life is not fair, it will not be fair, you can not make it fair, you have to do the best you can knowing that it is unfair.
I only wish I had realized it earlier than I did. Would have saved me a lot of cribbing, whining and resulting depression.
In conclusion, I will only say this...*...May the force be with you !!
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awww this is soo sweettt ..* no pun intended]*
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^ I don't see the pun even if it was intended.
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I have posted about my incorrect approach to handle depression by burying myself into work in 2004 and 2005.
Don't mean to turn this thread gloomy...but I am curious...how else could you have handled depression in your opinion ?
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Fraudia Sir, Your above post makes a lot of sense (like always, if I might add).
I hope you did not take my first post personally (though I am not sure how else you could have taken it !). As I said before, I have been lurking around GS for a long time and from reading your posts I have often wondered how meticulous you appear to be in different life situations. Though I would admit, I might have stepped over the line in trying to spice up my post a little bit.
I am an eternal pessimist myself (as the *Cricketnama *guys would know) and a nihilist in many ways - I marvel at people like yourself who seem to maintain such consistently upbeat and positive outlook towards life. Your travails with regards to the birth of your twins is well-documented here. Life does throw some curve balls at times, and I am glad you took it in your stride.
Your following lines pretty much sums it all : Life is not fair, it will not be fair, you can not make it fair, you have to do the best you can knowing that it is unfair.
some1, believe me between march 2004 and dec 2005 there were several times when on a two lane county highway I wanted to just swerve just a bit and slam my car into a semi. (not seminole).. and homestly speaking if i was not concerned about my parents and my wife..and was not a chicken I may just have, but it just stayed as a thought, but just the fact that those thoughts cross one's mind is serious enough.
I only wish I had realized it earlier than I did. Would have saved me a lot of cribbing, whining and resulting depression.
u know what, even if you know this, it does not mean you become beyond cribbing and whining and depression, you are just better equipped to deal with it.
I mean I knew this from the moment my profs pounded that in my head but I did whine I did get depressed.. but a rational part of you is always telling you...its okay..its not teh end..get up.
In conclusion, I will only say this...*...May the force be with you !!
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may the force be with you
remember
fear leads to anger
anger leads to hate
hate leads to...suffering
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Don't mean to turn this thread gloomy...but I am curious...how else could you have handled depression in your opinion ?
I could have sought help, first I was too proud to do it, then i was too busy to do it, plus ai was travelling most of the time, and then i thought that if the doc notes me as a nutjob then our plans to adopt may be killed.
If i can go back in past and change how i handled it, I would have not shut out everyone like I did, nd I would have seen a counselor.
but...
handling it in the poor way that I did is part of who I am now, why go back and change it.
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I could have sought help, first I was too proud to do it, then i was too busy to do it, plus ai was travelling most of the time, and then i thought that if the doc notes me as a nutjob then our plans to adopt may be killed.
Here I have to disagree with you.
Even though our circumstances were very different, I wish I had slogged my way out of depression like you. I have learnt that "work" is very therapeutic in these circumstances.
I made the mistake of going to a Shrink....the guy handed out pills like candies...that turned me into a walking emotionless zombie...and these meds are frightingly addictive...screwed up my entire metabolism. They are also very difficult to get off once you are on them...come with a whole lot of withdrawal symptoms (no wonder they are the Cash cows of pharma companies). So much for treatment of depression.
The episode turned me into a Scientologist...seriously. Tom Cruise is right, psychiatry is fraud....but I digress.