How can a girl not be clingy when........

[ShahreyarKhan]

Re: How can a girl not be clingy when…

plz pose this question to him and i am sure you will get a better answer

@AbraCadabra

95% of guys say they hate clingy/needy girls who are on their head all the time, who demand time, who demand love & compassion, who demand attention. But for the other side of the story, how can a girl not be clingy when she is insecure of the relation. I have been engaged for months. My fiance is there all the time through which ever mode available due to long distance but is really not there either. He wouldn’t talk with a lot of interest, he wouldn’t show interest if he sees a picture of me, he wouldn’t care if something special was happening in my life, he has never said any special sweet words, he has basically never shown that i am special to him. For me, its difficult to talk to him because he minds every it bit of the conversations. He doesn’t respond with the same enthusiasm and i end up looking stupid and unsure of my own self. I like him overall but i am so insecure of our relation and making it better that i end up being the clingy one. I think a girl who is secure of her relation is the sort who does not act needful. He has made it clear to me that he isn’t interested anywhere else but is just busy but how long can one be busy? month & months & months? What ever it is, i feel if i am insecure of this relation i ought to be chipkoo. I wonder how girls actually manage when they don’t get their due attention?