Gemini, I wasn’t trying to turn this into an argument. Sorry if i sounded judgemental :(.
As far as it being okay for wives to be unselfish but husband to get jealous on the attention she bestows on the children. . . well, i don’t agree with that. My husband doesn’t either. That’s a problem both in the Pakistan and the United States where husbands do get jealous. I don’t think it’s okay and I also think that if you are in a secure relationship where you truly put each other’s needs before your own, where you truly love and respect each other, there will be no jealousy from the husband or the wife if either bestows attention upon the child. But, in practice, that rarely happens which is really sad.
Anyways, sorry if i sounded argumentative. . . didn’t mean to.