How a man is supposed to deal with a female adversary

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Re: How a man is supposed to deal with a female adversary

@NomiCA

i didn’t mean to layout a specific scenario…i meant more in a cultural sense not strictly legal…

'cause there is no clarity as to what a ‘culturally appropriate’ response should be from a man -

Let’s put culture aside. What is the religiously appropriate response? When it comes to just ‘slapping,’ the act is forbidden. The Prophet SAWS prohibited striking the face. Respond in a manner which is more afzal in the sight of Allah. In some cases, Allah has allowed us more than one option. But He has also made it known which of them is more noble in His sight. For example, one has the right to exact revenge that is equivalent to the harm done. However, forgiveness is also an option and it is more afzal.

I’m not justifying physical abuse. But some attention also needs to be given to the behavior that provoked the physical response. For example, if you are persistently taunting someone (verbal abuse)…and they punch you in the face…the latter is more wrong. However, your behavior does not merit a shabaashi either. A ‘lesser’ mistake/wrong is still a wrong; it deserves attention and needs to be improved upon.