Re: Housewife and help?
Sweetmoi,
This was the exact situation in my family lol! I had the 3 boys very close together, my hubby works very long hours and I stay home with them. All 3 are in school now, the youngest just entered kindergarten so my life is much more organized these days.
I have to say that the years when they were infants and toddlers were the toughest years of my life, and also my hubby's. Happiest also! But exhausting and very difficult. When you have a career, sure its stressful and the day is long. But you get to leave work and come home. You get paid vacation and sick time. You get a lunch hour. You get challenging and interesting adult interaction.
Moms are on duty 24-7-365. No breaks, no vacations, no sick time, not much (if any) challenging or interesting interaction with adults. You fulfill your duties no matter how sick or tired you are, no matter what the time of day or night.
Dont take that as a complaint - its just how things are. Lucky me, I married a gem of a man who understood all this very well. He would come home and take over the care of the boys. He would give me time when I needed it - taking over care of the boys when I was sick or needed a break. When I got feeling overwhelmed and behind on the housework, he'd get out the vacuum and mop and get caught up on housework. He is a true parent and a true team mate. When my dad was sick with cancer, he worked from home for a few weeks, cared for the boys and the house so that I could fly down and see my dad. He gave me time with my dad before he passed and I'll be forever grateful for that time.
Just the fact that theres no break from motherhood can sometimes feel overwhelming. I cant imagine having gone through the early years with my boys with a husband who leaves everything to the mom.