errr after living alone 1st time in last 10 years I finaly got a housemate. By nature I am very quiet person and don’t make or like much noise around. This Pakistani guy who recently moved to chepstow and is working in my Company. so as he moved recently and was looking for a place to live, I foolishly offered to stay with me as I had a spare room in my flat. so the long story short it turned out that this person is quite a paindoo. Right now its 00.30AM and I am sitting in my room and he is on phone with some1 in his room. My room’s door is shut and am trying to finish this book. the thing is I can hear him Laughing/swearing on the phone in my room which of course is a pain for me as If I can hear him in my room that also means my nieghbours can hear him as well so one thing is final that I can’t live like this.
now the question is how should I tell him to find another place and still don’t make things ugly as he is also working in my company. If that was not the case then I would definitely thrown his stuff out of my flat
PS: its not the 1st time he doing this, sometimes I woke up at around 3 4 AM because of these LOUD calls.
Have you spoken to him and brought this to his attention, that him being loud annoys you? If not, I would advise that you at least speak to him about it and maybe he'll realize and try to keep it down. I don't see why you would want to kick him out only because he is loud. If you have spoken to him about it and he has refused to cooperate, then yes, you have the right to kick him out. But if you haven't talked to him about it and the poor guy doesn't even know it, then it's not fair to him.
Shikra I inderctly told him once, he was on the phone once and when he finished I pretended that I didn't know he was on phone, and asked him if he was talking with some round the street :(
hmmmm.........I think you should directly tell him to tone it down. I don't think he'll get offended. And if he doesn't listen, then you can ask him to leave but you would've done your part. So once again, avoid the indirect talk, spell it out for him.
Zombie bhai.. paindoos and indirect dont go together . Like shikra said you really have to spell it out for him. Next time hes talking loud go up to his room and ask him nicely to turn the volume down. I had a housemate once who liked listening to music while he slept!! Usually it was okay but one night he left it on a bit too loud. I didnt hesitate to bang on his door and wake him up (his room was locked) to turn that isht off. You gotta do what you gotta do.
well i had this kind of experience. a friend of friend needed some place to stay for few days while he can sort out his place to live. as i didnt know this person at all.
his living habits were un bareable, ie splashing water all over the bathroom, phone always busy when i wasnt at home. in short he was having holiday, surfing net and Tv. started even inviting friends in my absence. after two weeks passed he still wasnt looking for place for himself. he assumed its ok to live forever.
i was tolrating him cause one of my friend in Pak and cause he was new here. so didnt want to be hard. but once he left his hotmail open on my computer, amazed to see what he has been saying to others about all the hospitality he was given.
I didnt care anymore, so asked him in hits if he is looking for place etc but that didnt work. so i barred the phone for mobile calls. and asked him he has to leave cause my cousin/family is comming over to visit me.
for me its different i had no intention to see that person again.
but in your case, family visit excuse will be fine with a desi guy if you cant see any improvement.
He is paying rent to live in your flat, right? Then who the hell are you to control his volume? He can talk as loud as he likes. May be you need to get used to it. I think people have the right to speak as loud as they like in their homes.
you can understant how I feel, I offered him my place only because he was a desi and this town where I live is 99.9% English. He also moved to UK recently and the rent he will pay is almost free £100/month which is less then the council tax I pay per month plus he is also not paying for utility bills etc etc… but I don’t want to bring that coz its cheap to talk about that.
Funguy:- WHO THE HELL am I?? !!! I am the person who ownes this place and the person who pays all these taxes and the bill of that phone.. and will face the music from my neighbours and council if it stays like this (3, 4 AM loud calls!!!) The personal freedom ENDS when it crosses the boundry of others comfort!
Shikra:- Told him this evening, lets see tonight how it goes
awwwwwwwwwwwwwww he is desi na it takes time for him to understand the way of living in these countries...... instead of asking him to leave.. u can talk to him about all these stuff.. this is a very simple example of life, learn to be straight forward :)
Moral of the Story: Don’t charge so little rent next time. If you had charged market rate, it’ll almost seem worth it. On the flip side, you can now claim to be Hatam Tai. :k:
Have a talk with your housemate and politely explain the situation to him. Be firm. Tell him
that you feel he is taking advantage of you. It's a good idea to have a candid chat with your
house/flat mates once in a while. If the behavior continues, you are well within your rights to boot his paindoo ass.
Next time if you want a housemate, make sure you explain to him/her your comforts and discomforts and find out theirs as well. Too many incompatibilities would lead to tensions later, and it's not worth it. Find a housemate whose routines and habits are compatible to yours (if you are a quiet person, don't room with a rock band drummer; smoker v/s non-smoker; etc.) Your house/flat/apt is a place of relaxation; you don't want to solve problems & face another round of headaches and tension. Just set the expectations early on and consistently enforce them.
That’d be a mistake – you are making him an equal partner in the rent situation hence entitled to his boorish behavior. If you two are incompatible, you are better off booting him or working towards a booting.
which of course is a pain for me as If I can hear him in my room that also means my nieghbours can hear him as well 
. Like shikra said you really have to spell it out for him. Next time hes talking loud go up to his room and ask him nicely to turn the volume down. I had a housemate once who liked listening to music while he slept!! Usually it was okay but one night he left it on a bit too loud. I didnt hesitate to bang on his door and wake him up (his room was locked) to turn that isht off. You gotta do what you gotta do.
