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^ OMG same here, its really hard to break out of the take-out habit (not to mention very xpensive!)
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I'm happy to cook, I enjoy it. Cleaning is a completely different story. I refuse to do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. My husband and I both work and pay bills, I think it is completely unfair and unacceptable that I should be expected to do all the housework and cooking by myself. Told my hubby if he wants a maid, he can very well pay for one every week. I'm not a maid. He can either help with the household duties, or pay someone else to do them. Extremely grudgingly, my poor hubby helps with all the household chores.
I think sometimes our parents teach the boys very bad habits, particularly about taking the wives for granted and putting all the burdens on them. Especially regarding housework and helping the wife with her responsibilities. We support our husbands, it should be fully expected that they support us. A marriage is a shared responsibility, and that INCLUDES household chores.
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I think if a wife is working fulltime as well and doesn’t have kids then the husband should very well chip in wiht the housework. But if she’s not workng and there aren’t kids yet, then I don’t think its fair to expect him to take half the load of work…
Yesterday my brother went grocery shopping and I gave hm a list of stuff I wanted…I put “maid” as number one and he didnt get it 
He said they already have one, ME 
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^ sara, thats awful, but im sure he was joking :)
syani, i completely agree... i think hubbys should share the workload around the house and with raising the kids. its one of the advantages of marrying a gora vs. a desi boy :p
the Boy is so helpful, thank goodness, i tell you, his mama raised him right! he does it all, from a to z and some things he does better than i do. joy! :)
guys in my fam just come pre-loaded full of expectations of their wives... i don't like that. don't take your wife and the things she does for you, for granted. appreciate her! it goes a long way :) especially these days when both people are working. and yes, i appreciate him and the things he does for me, too.
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^ gaaaah!! I am so jealous somegroovychick!! You picked the cream of the crop, eh? heheheee... good for you girl. I love my baby, but that's exactly what he is, a baby. His momma (a wonderful woman, mind you) completely spoiled this boy, and now it's an uphill battle trying to undo a lifetime of taking being waited on hand and foot. I don't want my boys OR girls growing up this way, so I force my hubby to help. Yeah I could let it go, but then my kids will see it and not do their chores either, thinking "oh mommy's gonna do my laundry, clean my room, etc etc. NOT the example I want to set or a future I want to expect.
Sara, I do agree, if the husband is working and the wife is home taking care of the house, then obviously the responsibilities have been divided. He works and pays the bills, she cooks and cleans. That I think is acceptable. My point was that what is not acceptable and understandable, is when BOTH husband and wife work, and then he comes home and says "Where's my dinner, why is the house a mess?" That's when you hand him the frying pan (personally I'd whack them first) and tell him to make his own dinner.
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Sara, I do agree, if the husband is working and the wife is home taking care of the house, then obviously the responsibilities have been divided. He works and pays the bills, she cooks and cleans. That I think is acceptable. My point was that what is not acceptable and understandable, is when BOTH husband and wife work, and then he comes home and says "Where's my dinner, why is the house a mess?" That's when you hand him the frying pan (personally I'd whack them first) and tell him to make his own dinner.
LOL or just the fone, tell him to go get takeout :D
SGC.....i dont think he was :(
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I've lived alone since i started uni, so have pretty much learnt to do everything myself since then.. i enjoy cooking and i am a clean freeeeak (if it ain't sparkin' it ain't clean!) and i'm never satisfied with cleaning and household chores unless i do them myself! my future hubby thinks he is very lucky indeed....
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I find it very very disturbing when I see teens or even people into their twenties not helping out with household chores. I don't blame them, I blame their parents. Because it is the parent's duty to teach their children that working with your own hands has value, it builds character and a sense of family.
There was a time when girls were much better at it and guys were nothing better than what in punjabi is called hud-haram but more and more I see that girls are taking after their brothers.
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^ Well parents always made girls do all the work while the brother just sat there and did nothing or played outside....smy theory on y girls are so lazy is that either hte moms were beaten like crap by thier moms even tho they did all the housework and they dont want their daughters to do the same..or htey'd rather let daughters become lazy instead of getting their SONS to work!
of course this is all theory :p
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^^ i agree, there seems to be a real laziness with both girls and boys of our generation, perhaps because our parents worked so hard they wanted things to be a bit easier for us.. when i was 14-15 my mom always used to say to others when they asked if i could cook and clean 'she's gonna cook and clean for the rest of her life, let her enjoy for now'.. and then when i moved away i was like 'whooooaaa! cooker? pan? what?' i'm definitely gonna start teaching my kids from a younger age..
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woee bus shadi kai baad,cause me and my twin were spoil brat,(not in a bad way)and then we were in hostel(dorm)..awwww those were the days:teary2:
laikin yeh din bhee bohat achay hain,totaly diffrent life..hai na
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i'm definitely gonna start teaching my kids from a younger age..
i think you're right - i think you involve your kids from a young age, teach them to be responsible for their own messes, and it doesn't have to be a hard lesson to learn, you know? theres lots of cookbooks out there that involve kids so even if its just a weekend thing to make dessert or pasta or something, at least you're involving them, and letting them know everybody in the house contributes to how the house looks. maybe they can set the table at dinner time, or maybe they can help you dust. i dunno, its easy for me to theorize because i don't have kids right now- ask me again in 10 years! :p
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For as long as I can remember, I have been doing things around the house. I guess its because I was the only girl in the house along with 3 boys. First, it was like washing dishes, cleaning, little things here and there. Then, around age 10 or 11, my dadi taught me how to make boiled rice, roti chai etc. She was diabetic, so she'd be hungry all the time. When my mom wasn't around, she would ask me to make her things, and I would, just to hear her compliment my cooking :)
Later, I just started helping out mom in the kitchen more and more, and learned cooking by watching her. I think I was 16 when I made the first meal all by myself, and there was no stopping after that.
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my story is as same as farishtay ........... i couldn't recall the exact time when i started helping my mom (at age 5-6 i broke most of my mom's expensive crockery in an effort to help her out ) , with 2 brothers my mom had to work a lot and i've always helped her , started to cook stuff like breakfast , desserts , sandwiches , soups , salads , tea , drink when i was around 10 or so but i cooked proper meal / salan years later , i was a cleaning freak like my mom and loved to clean all around the place , being the only daughter i remained at my mom's side 24/7 - school / college hours , so while watching her cook i get to learn lots of stuff , than after getting married at 23 and settling in U.S i found it easier to get adjusted to typical married life routine , my husband is too friendly and cooperative ( spend years in U.S before marriage) so he always help me out whenever he has time , so life is going on okay , i've a 20 months old too + my studies , & things do get out of control at times ( i'll definitely hire part time maid after my baby no:2 and once i'll start working ) but somehow i get to manage all stuff , after all .... subb kuch hudd hee tou karna hai .... so the moral of my story is that i'll get my kids to start helping me out pretty young so that they won't become lazy brats and if they'll get settled here in U.S than won't go through any hardships at all.
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I remember making my 1st salan when i was 10. Ive always loved making food and i helped out at home from a young age. I neva thought that was a bad thing tho and id do the same thing with my daughter.
SGC-i know white guys r so indepandant in that sense-Hubz does all his own laundry and even cooks for me instead of me having to do everything. Howeva housework wise cos i am a stay at home mum i do everything cleaning wise. Im kinda wierd abt housework and how i want things done and sometimes hubz has tried to do a few things and they have neva been done to my standard so ive told him to leave the household chores to me. But hubz takes care of our daughter in the evenings whilst im at the gym.