house husbands

[Miss_Mohabbat]

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@Fayz

I find mother child love to be the most fascinating thing in the world.

Even when you are looking at the wildlife, the female takes care of the kids till they are self-sufficient ..while the lion is screwing around with other lionesses.
If I were a woman, I wouldn’t let anybody deprive me of this nature’s gift of raising a child. I’ve nothing against men being house husbands but I would rather have a woman take care of the kids when they need her the most.

very fancy way of saying “shut up and look after the bairns yourself woman!”

i like it

[LuxuryItem]

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@Fayz

^ Maybe / Maybe not..that is what differentiates humans from animals. A mother would never eat her own child. The example is an indication for humans to learn from nature.

^^ This post is a good example of back peddling, guppies take note.

[Afia]

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Missy....i don't like the idea ....!!
my husband tries to help me a lot whenever he has time ....but i just don't like it specially in the kitchen .....its my territory ...i'll do everything myself!

btw, why have u locked ur journal.....you can go private for whicheverentries u like ....but don't lock the whole thing ....i sooo enjoy it ! Pleeeeeeaaaaaase!!

[system]

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@Miss_Mohabbat

very fancy way of saying “shut up and look after the bairns yourself woman!”

i like it

haha thanks. It is fancy alright

It is better than what Chris Rock says “Woman, feed me, fk me and shut the fk up”

[system]

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I think I will have that at some point as both my husband and I are striving toward a job / business that will allow us to work from home. However, if only I was working outside (we would go bankrupt since the profession I am interested in isn't exactly lucrative) and he was staying at home and not earning money at all, I wouldn't respect him. For various reasons:

I think men should work
I think they should earn more money than the wife
I like seeing my husband shouldering responsibility and protecting me
All very un-PC I'll admit but I don't think many would want that.

As for helping around the house, yeah I want him to and he does.

[Kashif_Raja]

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House Husbands die at an early age. This was in a study by AMA done a few years ago. But it is kinda lame to wear a dupatta and be a house husband.

[ahmadjee]

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Gender expectations are changing ever since women have become more financially independent and that trend is not going to change in the near future. Is it “bad” for a husband to stay home while his wife works? No, but it is socially unacceptable & thus he doesn’t earn respect from others.

But the more interesting discussion here is that in almost all cultures around the world when a woman does something that a man can do, it is considered an accomplishment, while the opposite is almost always not true. For example, there are no competitions for men who can crochet but the girl on the football team is a praised everywhere. “Women have short feet so they can stand close to the oven” is meant to be an insult, because somehow fixing the Z-350 deserves respect while kitchen work does not.

[system]

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Haha it's not just society, its women specifically as well. We like our men good (ie helping with the baby) but we want a bad boy as well (someone macho and egoistic).

[Majestic]

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I for one don't like the idea. I would hate to see my husband at home at all times. He can still do many things but not become a stay home husband. In the Quran it says "and we made men the protectors of women". So I want someone who can take care of men in lots of ways. Staying at home is not one of them.

[ahmadjee]

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Majestic, are you suggesting that a man at home cannot protect a woman? But I guess a more basic question is what does 'protection' mean? How does a man protect his woman?

[Majestic]

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@ahmadjee

Majestic, are you suggesting that a man at home cannot protect a women? But I guess a more basic question is what does ‘protection’ mean? How does a man protect his woman?

No protecting has nothing to do with a stay home husband. I just hate the whole idea its queer!

[Mehnaz]

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It's a great idea, but unfortunately in our culture, it's frowned upon a lot.

I only know of one house husband and nobody really respects him cause he's at home looking after the daughter all day. However, I'm sure it has a lot to do with the fact that his wife was working even while she was struggling with breast cancer .... sigh

[Faisal]

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Reading all the responses, makes me curious how much of our opinions are truly based on the merits of the situation, and how much are based on pre-conceived roles that have been drilled into us from day one.

If we look at some of the African or Amazon tribes (yeah, you can always trust them for different kind of life-styles - different for us, not for them, mind you), there are documented cases (I remember several episodes of National Geographic) of women being the bread winner, while men staying at home protecting the kids. I am sure their kids grow up expecting exactly the same life-style. If you tell one of their kids that 'you know, really its the husbands who should go out and get some food'; they'll probably raise their eye-brows and say "nah! thats not what I want in my husband".

[Muslim_Queen]

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I say to hell with feminist ideas and share the house work and jobs. :o

[Miss_Mohabbat]

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@Faisal

Reading all the responses, makes me curious how much of our opinions are truly based on the merits of the situation, and how much are based on pre-conceived roles that have been drilled into us from day one.

If we look at some of the African or Amazon tribes (yeah, you can always trust them for different kind of life-styles - different for us, not for them, mind you), there are documented cases (I remember several episodes of National Geographic) of women being the bread winner, while men staying at home protecting the kids. I am sure their kids grow up expecting exactly the same life-style. If you tell one of their kids that ‘you know, really its the husbands who should go out and get some food’; they’ll probably raise their eye-brows and say “nah! thats not what I want in my husband”.

your the only geezer here who makes sense.

Completely agree with the notion that a situation or circumstances that should matter. Its not really about nature/nurture and whatnot. For me, this guy who “has to” look after his children, is doing more good than harm for his children. His wife has had to become the bredwinner as she is a qualified professional in this country, her husband is not. What is he to do? look for a job which will barely support his wife and kids or make do with his wife earning for them? she is in a much better position to offer a decent life for her family as she would earn way more than her husband ever would working in the UK.

Its all about priorities.

No one answered about whether or not this man is seen as not a “real” man…
i want the men to answer please…and none of this " my wife is a better a mother" What would u do if you lost your job and your wife had to support the family?

[_Tikhi_Jalebi]

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i think every couples different, it would depend