I have come across a thousand horror stories regarding child bearing. I always thought the only pain one has to endure is the labor, but a few recent threads have shed a new light and I am wiser now. I have discovered, it’s just the tip of the iceberg. The pain is lasting, physical and emotional.
These horror stories and vivid accounts of miseries have made me rethink my future plans of having a single offspring. I plan to have none now, if that’s what I have to go through. Please boost my morale and make me rethink the rethinking I have done
after reading these stories.
Please list some pleasent accounts of motherhood, list some happy stories, something which won’t make our stomachs churn, which will restore my faith in the phenomenon of motherhood.
A child is a blessing from Allah .. I urge you to rethink your decision... ask any mom.. she would love her child to death.. no matter how rude or disobidient that child is... or how painful it is for them to have that child.. it will all go away once the child is there with you
it will all go away once the child is there with you
^wrong.
It's only the beginning. Ask any parent who has a toddler on their
hands (or a teenager for that matter). :)
But u know what
nothing can beat the joys of being a parent when things are smooth.
Sorry but that's the way it is.
chandbeti
U will grow out of this ......whatever u are feeling at the moment.
Trust me u will.:)
Let me join this club. After things in review I never want marrage kids or any other kind of hassle in my life. When i am old I'll get a toy boy. No emotion and no strings attached. That way one does not get needlessly hurt or have to go through emotional or physical pain. I have no overwhelming urge to propogate and fail to see why more people dont choose the manogamy way.
My work collegue recently gave birth and the poor girl went through 24 hours of painful labour. Apparently they had to put her on Pethidine and use forceps to assist delivery. She also had several stiches put in afterwards :yukh: :yukh: uufffff!
Oops sorry, I just realised you wanted pleasant accounts
However shes doing good now, very happy and content given what she went through.
My friend who was present in the delivery room at the time of his first child’s birth recalls that the only words he could think of when the baby’s head pooped out were ‘gooooood byeeee a$$ hole’
Chandbeti - Anything good is a struggle and the best gift in the world you could recieve from God is a child. They are amazing. Pain is very fleeting but kids stay with you your whole life and they love you unconditionally (except for the breif time they are teens, conditions seem to appear:) ).
Where else are you going to find that except from your own parents?
I went through all 3 deliveries with no epidural and very little pain meds...I have this abnormally severe fear of needles so the epidural wasnt something I'd even consider. Thought I was gonna die a few times there but we all made it through. And my goodness, you can't beleive the love that just develops over the new little human being that you created with your love. There was an ad to join the army that said "Its the toughest job you'll ever love", I think it applies more to motherhood.
The physical pain is fleeting and endurable. God/Allah won't give more than you can endure...
Its hard to be more specific. Kids are SOOOOO frustrating at times. Its the parents' job to teach them the right ways. And when things go wrong, you will find within yourself a resolve and dedication to the task unlike anything I could ever explain. I've beenthrough hell and back with my eldest boy, thought I'dm have a mental breakdown a number of times there, but like a mother lion protecting her cubs, you just get through the bad times, forget about 'em and cherish the good times.
When I was younger, I never wanted children, thought they were a pain-in-the-neck and a burden. I was the least maternally inclined person I could imagine. Now I cant imagine a life without my boys. They just love me unconditionally, rely on me unconditionally. And they put the sunshine in my world.
If you're feeling non-maternal, dont fret over it. When things are right,when you are ready things just fall into place and happen.
Chandbeti, you can find a surrogate who can carry your child. If men could do it, I would gladly carry a child. Man, the maternity leave, and midnight cravings for junk food. oh yeah!
one of our family friend’s daughter recently had a baby. and let me tell you she is as skinny as a flippin’ twig, literally.
but Mash’Allah i was surprised she didn’t go through such a painful labour. she said they used sum sort of injection so she wouldn’t feel any pain (that’s news to me, never knew they did that)
and she said because of that she only had few pains and that’s about it
Mash’Allah i still can’t believe it because for a person like her, being so skinny i would think it would be hard. but i guess it all depends on the person and let’s not lose hope just yet
im sure when time comes you won’t say this because no matter how annoying kids are at times, they really are a blessing.
