Hope for single ladies

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Re: Hope for single ladies

@Ghost14

But was the girl forced? If she agreed to the rishta then it’s not a case of genders being skewed, it’s a case of different priorities. You repeatedly cite careers as being attractive, but that only works for men (in attracting women). Historically, and really at its cynical core, marriage is a barter between men and women: security for sex. Granted, this is extreme. Now that women can work, the world is different, but our desires are not. Would you marry a moderately religious, nice, respectable guy if he only had a trade job? What if he was intelligent but unmotivated and only earned a fraction of what you made? You repeatedly insult men who don’t have careers and then go on to state that men have to do nothing to get married and woe be to the successful women who fail to get hitched.

Those educated desi guys who married non-Muslim girls just played the game right. The fact is that society lies to women in telling them that their career will get them married. Your career is important, and I would encourage every woman to be financially independent, but don’t play the rishta game like a man. Your career only signifies character attributes about you, but very rarely will a guy marry a woman for the fact that she has x career.

I’m not using my career to attract guys, and the women I’ve seen go through what I am going through and similar to OP’s friend’s situation - those girls too did not use their careers to get guys.

Most of us went into what we did because we were nerds, and we were ambitious and competetive and we wanted to win or we wanted that next step in our development through schooling.

So I dunno where you’re getting that from. I don’t think I use my career to bait guys, if anything, it might drive some people away if they want a housewife.